re: I need advice :'(

Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nasela:</b>" yeah , shes always been rough on me like that."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... to bring a baby into that household rather than having an abortion and being an adult and dealing with those consequences?"

I'd rather die then kill my child.
How would you like it if someone killed your child right now. Exactly, I have too much compassion. and even though my life was rough, im still glad my mom never aborted me, because it wouldnt of been MY choice, it would of been her killing me, and not giving me a chance to decide wether i like this life or not.

<blockquote><b>Quoting nasela:</b>" ummm ? i asked for advice, like how the smurf am i suppose to tell her. and this had nothing to do with ... [snip!] ... i was clearing MY LIFE up and how I would actually raise the child, not smurfing have it grow up suicidal, like how i did."</blockquote>


You just seem incredibly defensive for someone who is getting a lot of good advice

Quoting nasela:" I'd rather die then kill my child. How would you like it if someone killed your child right now. Exactly, ... [snip!] ... of been MY choice, it would of been her killing me, and not giving me a chance to decide wether i like this life or not."

Killing a child and killing a fetus that cant live on its own yet is completely 2 different things.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Just sit her down and tell her. TRUST ME... I would have an abortion if I was in your place. I KNOW ... [snip!] ... I know you are thinking that I would never ever know how you feel because the world is falling apart all around you. But I do. "

I understand, I really do. And I apologize for arguing this. I'm just stressed and afraid. And even if i were to abort it, i wouldnt be able to without them knowing unless there is a secret way. Other than that, I think I would rather go through the pain of having it, and adopting it out to someone who will love it and care for it and give it a good home.

Quoting nasela:" I'd rather die then kill my child. How would you like it if someone killed your child right now. Exactly, ... [snip!] ... of been MY choice, it would of been her killing me, and not giving me a chance to decide wether i like this life or not."

it is not a child. it is a cluster of cells, then it is an embryo.

<blockquote><b>Quoting nasela:</b>" I'd rather die then kill my child. How would you like it if someone killed your child right now. Exactly, ... [snip!] ... of been MY choice, it would of been her killing me, and not giving me a chance to decide wether i like this life or not."</blockquote>


Well maybe you should had said you don't believe in abortion then saying you can't because your grandma would beat you.

And I do know. I've had 2 abortions.

I still think before you get worked up take a test. Your not even late yet

Believe it or not, these ladies ARE giving you advice. They can't help that you don't LIKE that advice, that's on you. However, there ARE realities that you have to face if you are, indeed, pregnant. Most relationships like that don't last. His family might not let him see you again even if you ARE pregnant. And, if you think you are old enough to bring a child into this world, you have to be woman enough to tell your mom, "I'm pregnant." It's scary as all get out, but honesty is going to be your best policy in this case, whatever you decide to do, even if you're NOT pregnant.

If you are NOT, then you need to get on birth control and take it every day, or get the IUD where you don't have to remember a pill.

Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nasela:</b>" I'd rather die then kill my child. How would you ... [snip!] ... you don't believe in abortion then saying you can't because your grandma would beat you. And I do know. I've had 2 abortions."

I'm honestly not thinking right at this very moment. I'm to scared to think, to scared to proccess. Either way I'll get the smurf beat out of me, and I rather have the child and adopt it out and have it live a wonderful life with an amazing family who will care for and love it, and let it have more understanding then i ever have in my life. its not that im against abortion...i know its confusing,..its just i wish i had a chance to live an amazing life, and i could by giving my child an amazing life.

Quoting nasela:" I understand, I really do. And I apologize for arguing this. I'm just stressed and afraid. And even if ... [snip!] ... go through the pain of having it, and adopting it out to someone who will love it and care for it and give it a good home."

Adoption is much MUCH harder than abortion. And I dont think a 16 year old can wrap your mind around it. I would still sit down with your mom and go from there. And Like I have told you before, abortion would be the best thing. a 14 and 16 year old can not mentally handle abortion. Or talk to your SO's mom and ask her about things.

Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nasela:</b>" I'd rather die then kill my child. How would you ... [snip!] ... you don't believe in abortion then saying you can't because your grandma would beat you. And I do know. I've had 2 abortions."

Ive had one abortion, and placed a child for adoption.

<blockquote><b>Quoting nasela:</b>" I'm honestly not thinking right at this very moment. I'm to scared to think, to scared to proccess. ... [snip!] ... know its confusing,..its just i wish i had a chance to live an amazing life, and i could by giving my child an amazing life."</blockquote>



Adoption is a very hard thing to do. Much harder then abortion

Quoting nasela:" I'm honestly not thinking right at this very moment. I'm to scared to think, to scared to proccess. ... [snip!] ... know its confusing,..its just i wish i had a chance to live an amazing life, and i could by giving my child an amazing life."

Want to know how glorious being an birth mom is?

http://monksporkers0711.blogspot.com/

<blockquote><b>Quoting nasela:</b>" woohooo, might as well get an abortion if i am pregnant, right ?! maybe thats what my mom should of done, aborted me!"</blockquote>


Yes, in my oPinion, abortion would be your best option. Having a baby right now is going to ruin your life, ruin your 14 year old boyfrind's life, and the baby is going to grow up in a family with a great grandmother who beats its mother, a grand mother who will probably hate it becaUs she's a racist smurf, and two parents who are children.
EVERY teen mom says "im going to step up, get my lfe together, and take care of my child". Your chances of actually doing that are VERY slim. Do you think your mom made a concious decision to raise a suicidal child or have you resent her? Nope she sure didn't. No young mother decides to be an unsuccessful, less than adequate patent but that fact is that at your age and your boyfriend's age you are just not equipped to parent effectively.
But from what youve written so far, you are a typical stubborn teenager who thinks no one understands you and your not going to take the learned advice of these experienced mothers. Because you know every thing and you're "going to beat the odds" because "it's different for you guys". News flash, you and your situation is not unique.
Wait until your period is late, which would be Friday, take a test. And go from there. If you're not pregnant get on some form of birth control AND use condoms.

Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting nasela:</b>" I'm honestly not thinking right at this very moment. ... [snip!] ... could by giving my child an amazing life."</blockquote> Adoption is a very hard thing to do. Much harder then abortion"

yeah. 9 months of having something in your belly that you cant keep, then going home empty handed after giving birth. And dealing with the possible closing of an open adoption. The lack of support and more of "its done, now get over it."