re: I need advice :'(

Quoting MommaSav2:" I say you hope to hell you're not pregnant. Wait until your period is due and take a test. If you are, ... [snip!] ... condoms please. The "pull out method" is NOT a method of birth control. Some semen comes out before the man ever ejaculates."

I would only do it with a man that fully knows his body. And I for one KNOW a 14 year old doesnt know how to control his body to withdrawl before ejaculating.

Quoting Platypus:" I mean.. shes not being far from truthful.. maybe a little harsh, but that's the reality of it.. guys ... [snip!] ... from this. Ive been down this road before too, and im experienced in this.. You dont want to be in this situation ever again."

your right. im just terrified.

Just remember... we were all 16 once... most 16 year olds (if not all) are lacking in common sense. It's normal.. But seriously... If you were my daughter, you would be on the pill ASAP along with being told to use condoms... You have so much of your young life ahead of you... Babies can wait til later.

Quoting nasela:" your right. im just terrified."

I would talk to your mom.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Says the 16 year old.....   "

I came to this site for HELP, not to be put down and smurf. everyones being harsh with NO ADVICE,

Either tell your mom and get plan b, or wait a bit and take a test. Then decide what to do if you are.

Quoting nasela:" your right. im just terrified."

It's understandable.. It's a scary thing.. If you can talk to your mom, or an adult you trust, you should probably go to an OB/GYN and get some birth control. Are you late for your period? If you're still within the 72 hours, i would try to get the plan B from a doctor. It doesnt always work though (ive had it fail). So it's definitely better to be on the pill consistently. And if you are pregnant, you have options. But just remember to learn from this. We've all been caught up "in the moment" before.

Quoting nasela:" I came to this site for HELP, not to be put down and smurf. everyones being harsh with NO ADVICE,"

Really? I see loads of advice. You dont want to be grown up and tell your mom that you are pregnant or could be pregnant. I think we know a little more than youright now.

First off take a test
Secondly talk to your boyfriend.

Are you in a relationship? What will you do if you are pregnant. Is if illegal in your state for a 16 year old to have sex with a 14 year old.

If you are keeping it how will you pay for it. Where will you live. There's a million things you need to think about.

The ladies on here are giving you advice. From your op, you seem more mature than some girls I see on here your age.

When you are older, you will look back on this and realize why people are saying stuff about your age.. I do think it's a little harsh considering we've ALL been 16 before, but we are trying to give the best advice we can based on experience.

Quoting nasela:" I came to this site for HELP, not to be put down and smurf. everyones being harsh with NO ADVICE,"

What advice are you looking for? I see a lot. Tell your parents... If your mature enough to have sex and possibly get pregnant then you should be mature enough to talk about sex with them. How would you raise a baby with the dad being 14? He couldn't even support you. Just be a grown up and face your consequences.

Quoting Platypus:" It's understandable.. It's a scary thing.. If you can talk to your mom, or an adult you trust, you should ... [snip!] ... if you are pregnant, you have options. But just remember to learn from this. We've all been caught up "in the moment" before. "

honestly if i am pregnant, i WILL have to tell my mom, and try to have her understand...she was a teen mom too...but she was a lot wilder than me as a teen...and was with a nazi...which makes it harder to tell her...because he is mexican...and another reason it would be hard is because she compares me to her when im nothing like how she was..just the sex part..but if im not pregnant i will get on the pill and talk to my mom about that,,,she knew i was having sex with my ex who sexually assulted me once in my sleep, it didnt bother her as much as me being with the guy i am with now...

Quoting nasela:" honestly if i am pregnant, i WILL have to tell my mom, and try to have her understand...she was a teen ... [snip!] ... sex with my ex who sexually assulted me once in my sleep, it didnt bother her as much as me being with the guy i am with now..."

i think if you are not pregnant, getting on the pill and taking it correctly would be an awesome idea.

Quoting nasela:" honestly if i am pregnant, i WILL have to tell my mom, and try to have her understand...she was a teen ... [snip!] ... sex with my ex who sexually assulted me once in my sleep, it didnt bother her as much as me being with the guy i am with now..."

I hope you arent pregnant. You dont how this will effect this kids life right now. He is 14! Yeah you may think it is great that you might be pregnant and you are going to be a teen mom, but it isnt what "teen mom" is like. There is a lot more heartbreak, and A LOT LESS MONEY...

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I hope you arent pregnant. You dont how this will effect this kids life right now. He is 14! Yeah you ... [snip!] ... you are going to be a teen mom, but it isnt what "teen mom" is like. There is a lot more heartbreak, and A LOT LESS MONEY... "

not to mention: no going out and hanging with your friends, no partying, probably no prom (or you will have to find a babysitter), sadly, statistically, yo probably won't finish high school, and most likely won't go to college, good luck trying to find a boyfriend your age when you have a baby, you will have to get a job to support your baby (diapers, wipes, clothes, formula, bedding, bottles....)