re: My hospital bed rest story(tmi warning)*Update 1/16*

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" Just finally talked to the doctor! He said fluid levels are up but not normal yet but its still a good ... [snip!] ... amniocentesis where they inject you with blue dye and you put a tampon in and see what happens) he will just send me home!"

Awesome news! I hope it works!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" Omg that muct be extremely hard   Like I said, if I couldn 't see Will I would leave. It would be ... [snip!] ... thought to be positive and everyone around me to be positive. I feel so emotionally weak no matter how strong I try to be."</blockquote>

That's how I felt around the end of week 1. It was all so overwhelming. Everyone was like trying to crush my positive energy I felt like. I had my little melt down and then now it's been pretty good since.

I can't do this anymore. I am so depressed. I have no privacy. Everyone walks in and out of my room like I'm not even a human being. I AM NOT IN JAIL. I didn't DO ANYTHING WRONG. I shouldn't be punished! They wake me up all night to take my temp and blood pressure. The doctor came in my room at 5:45 am to ask me how I was doing. WTF. I AM SLEEPING. I have been doing fine since I got here 8 days ago minus the leaking I had last Sunday. I have been stable for 8 days. Leak free for 6. And they still can't leave me the smurf alone!!! I would tell them if I was in pain or started leaking again. They treat me like I'm 3 years old. I want to leave so bad, idk how much longer I can handle this. I feel so disrespected  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" I can't do this anymore. I am so depressed. I have no privacy. Everyone walks in and out of my room like ... [snip!] ... They treat me like I'm 3 years old. I want to leave so bad, idk how much longer I can handle this. I feel so disrespected  "</blockquote>

Sorry sweetie. They do the same crap to me too. I just try to relax and not let it bother me. I have to be monitored at 5 every morning, then I Hve a dr, a resident, and a med student all come in and talk to me between 6&8. I'm
Like wtf?!?! You can't all just come at the same time?!?! Then at 9 they bring my meds and do vitals but it's always diff people at diff times. I don't go to bed until midnight or later since my night monitor is at 11 (that's if they come
On time). Then today i got woken up at 8 for an u/s. it is frusterating mama   I'm sorry. They come in every hour to check on me. They are always asking me "have u had any bleeding or fluid leaking?" I'm like "seriously you need to ask me this?!?!" yeah I've been bleeding all night and didn't tell anyone   duh. Obviously I'm gonna freak the smurf out if I bleed cause it's probably my baby bleeding to death. Gah.

So I feel ya mama. It is hard. But just remember you're helping your baby. I know it's hard for will but he will understand soon enough. I know I have to keep going because I know lylian would be devastated if her sister died. He told Sam this morning that "she was scared Scarlytt was going to die" when he asked her why she was acting out all morning.   so it makes me wanna work harder to keep her safe. But luckily lylian is a little older and can understand. Idk If will understands or not.

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" I can't do this anymore. I am so depressed. I have no privacy. Everyone walks in and out of my room like ... [snip!] ... They treat me like I'm 3 years old. I want to leave so bad, idk how much longer I can handle this. I feel so disrespected  "

can you talk to them, and let them know that you're having a lot of trouble and that you need a little more sleep? i mean, i know they need to monitor you and i'm glad they are. i know you'd tell them if there's anything noticeable going on, but the monitoring is important too. but... maybe if they could set a schedule where they don't come in before 6?.... idk. is there a nurse who is nice that you could ask about it. i know when i was in the hospital just for giving birth, they're still in there like all the time. i saw nurses and techs constantly. some were bitchy and some were nice. so, if i needed something, i'd remember who was the nice one and ask her stuff, lol.

i don't know firsthand what you're going through, but i can imagine that it is very hard for you, but please don't leave! i don't want to see something happen to you or baby....  

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" I can't do this anymore. I am so depressed. I have no privacy. Everyone walks in and out of my room like ... [snip!] ... They treat me like I'm 3 years old. I want to leave so bad, idk how much longer I can handle this. I feel so disrespected  "

I know it's hard... but this is all in your best interest! They are doing what they can to make sure you are OK and that nothing happens to you or baby. Is there any way you can request that they monitor you at decent hours, rather than at 5 in the morning, etc?

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" I can't do this anymore. I am so ... [snip!] ... me wanna work harder to keep her safe. But luckily lylian is a little older and can understand. Idk If will understands or not."

That was my schedule until a few days ago I got them to do the monitoring around 9:30pm and 9:30am. Either way though it's hard as smurf to fall asleep here and then they wake me up multiple times to take my temp and blood pressure throughout the night and then the night doctor comes in before their shift ends in the morning and then the day doctor comes in once their shift starts in the morning! Ughhhh. I'm sitting here all emotional and crying and who walks in but room service to pick up my empty tray and then housekeeping to mop my floor. I HAVE NO PRIVACY. I can't even be sad in peace!!!

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" can you talk to them, and let them know that you're having a lot of trouble and that you need a little ... [snip!] ... can imagine that it is very hard for you, but please don't leave! i don't want to see something happen to you or baby....  "</blockquote>
:!! Yes ask them if they can give you a certain time where there's a do not disturb sign on your door. My nurses said they can do that for me anytime
I just need to ask. I don't just because I easily fall back asleep but if I was that distraught I would ask.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" That was my schedule until a few days ago I got them to do the monitoring around 9:30pm and 9:30am. ... [snip!] ... room service to pick up my empty tray and then housekeeping to mop my floor. I HAVE NO PRIVACY. I can't even be sad in peace!!!"</blockquote>

That's how I felt. Last week I was an emotional basket case and I felt like I couldnt even curl up and just let it out cause there was always skmekne coming in or the thought of someone coming in. It was embarrassing  

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaNoodle:</b>" can you talk to them, and let them know that ... [snip!] ... for me anytime I just need to ask. I don't just because I easily fall back asleep but if I was that distraught I would ask."

yes, this is the big reason i suggest this. it can't hurt to ask, and really, they should be pretty accommodating. they don't want you to be stressed out because that's bad for the baby also. i'm sure there is a way for them to change their schedules around a little.

It sucks but I am sure it is hospital policy for them to do your vitals every 4 hours.
Ask your doctor if he can make an order for it to be changed to just once during the night. You could always just ask the nurses if you can refuse it and ask them just to peek their head in.

It really depends on hospital policy, and a lot of nurses have never been in the hospital so they don't understand the inconvenience.

If my fluid levels aren't up by Tuesday but I'm still not leaking I think I'm going to leave against medical advice. There was a study done showing that the risks of infection are higher for women on bed rest at home than in the hospital and apparently the infection can get bad fast and they said it's a matter of minutes, but they won't tell me the exact percentage. I'm thinking it's one of those things where the risk is like 2% at the hospital and 4% at home but they scare you y saying the risk is doubled at home ya know?

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" I can't do this anymore. I am so depressed. I have no privacy. Everyone walks in and out of my room like ... [snip!] ... They treat me like I'm 3 years old. I want to leave so bad, idk how much longer I can handle this. I feel so disrespected  "

You can do this, sweetie. You are stronger than you think. I wish I had more encouraging words for you, my love, but sadly I don't. All I can really tell you is that you CAN do this. It's alright to be sad, I would be sad too. Of course, I'd also be mad as hell if I were you, and every nurse that walked in there to wake me up in the middle of the night would be getting an earfull of some not so nice words. I agree with everyone else, is there no way you can talk to them? Ask to speak with the hospital administrator, or the L&D team leader (the one who supervises the nurses). There's gotta be a way they can help you, you can't stay this depressed until March. I get hospital policy, but somebody has to be sympathetic to your situation.

*hugs* You'll be alright, Darlin. Like I said, you're stronger than you think. <3

Quoting [JadeLee]:" It sucks but I am sure it is hospital policy for them to do your vitals every 4 hours. Ask your doctor ... [snip!] ... depends on hospital policy, and a lot of nurses have never been in the hospital so they don't understand the inconvenience."

The vitals are the best part. The nurses are so nice about it and tell me if Ii get up to use the bathroom to buzz them and they'll do it while I'm up, so that's nice. It's more the doctors coming in and waking me up to ask me stupid questions, and allllll the millions of other people who walk in all the time. Without knocking  

Quoting Will☮Creedence:" The vitals are the best part. The nurses are so nice about it and tell me if Ii get up to use the bathroom ... [snip!] ... waking me up to ask me stupid questions, and allllll the millions of other people who walk in all the time. Without knocking  "

i'm pretty sure you can request a knock. i know once the food lady came in when i was getting changed or something and i was like, "uhhh..." and she was embarrassed and left. most of them knocked though. i mean, really. it's where you're LIVING for weeks. they should knock. if my door was closed, most of them knocked. i left it open if i didn't mind them walking in.