re: Engaged WITHOUT a ring.

I never got an engagement ring. The "wedding ring" was $20 at WalMart. I only wore it for a few months before he decided that he didn't like me wearing jewelry. He was a weird one.
Sometimes I daydream about actually getting proposed to, with a pretty ring (doesn't have to be expensive), all sweet and romantic... *swoon* LOL
It's weird because I'm not generally the romantic type!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raptor Jesus:</b>" This is the least romantic wedding "proposal" I have ever come across. Seriously. THAT is how he brought ... [snip!] ... hon, let's change our status to 'engaged' lolz!!!" Anyway, congratulations. I really don't mean to be a bitch but come on."</blockquote>

 

I agree because I have no good memories of those important relationship milestones. I feel like they were all contaminated by some bad memory. It is definitely skmething u want to brag about for the rest of your life  

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" This is the least romantic wedding "proposal" I have ever come across. Seriously. THAT is how he brought ... [snip!] ... hon, let's change our status to 'engaged' lolz!!!" Anyway, congratulations. I really don't mean to be a bitch but come on."

LOL It's better than mine: 10 minutes after the positive pregnancy test, he basically told me that we had to get married and that I'd have to be baptized into his church. I went along with it because I was a naïve 19 year old *shrugs* I learned the hard way  

In my eyes being engaged is a little more serious than a relationship. It's not that important. I've seen all too many times engagements failing. So until someone is actually planning a wedding I don't consider them exactly engaged. Sure they can have the label but they aren't really engaged IMO. I've even known several that have announced their engagements in the newspaper and planned an entire wedding and then now get married because of them breaking up.

Engagement should mean that they are engaged to be married. But I don't take it serious unless they are getting married and planning a wedding. In my opinion the wedding should be held in the next year if engaged.

If not then I consider them promised to be engaged.

Of course this is all my opinion. As far as rings, meh it's all such a small point. I believe both parties should consider each other engaged if they believe they are. But if one doesn't then they aren't engaged.

You can take my opinion with a grain of salt  

<blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" In my eyes being engaged is a little more serious than a relationship. It's not that important. I've ... [snip!] ... if they believe they are. But if one doesn't then they aren't engaged. You can take my opinion with a grain of salt  "</blockquote>

I agree. I've been engaged forever but it just never seems like the right time to plan a wedding. We've tried many times but I hate planning and there's always something overwhelming going on. Like starting grad school, having a baby, etc. I feel really weird saying I'm engaged because it usually means u set a date and we haven't  

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" In my eyes being engaged is a little ... [snip!] ... grad school, having a baby, etc. I feel really weird saying I'm engaged because it usually means u set a date and we haven't  "</blockquote>




People say they are engaged all the time but IMO they aren't really. I hope I don't offend anybody with my opinion

<blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" ... [snip!] ... People say they are engaged all the time but IMO they aren't really. I hope I don't offend anybody with my opinion"</blockquote>

Yeah. I mean we will get married no doubt. But some just get engaged willy nilly and don't follow through.

Essentially an engagement is simply a promise to Marry. If you have decide to Marry someone and have both agreed to be Married then you are engaged, that is the defintion of engagement. Wether an official proposal took place and a ring was produced or both people sat done and had a discussion and agreed they want to get Married and start planning it well they have all promised to get Married so all situations equate to an engagement. I've actually heard people say before they're not engaged because they don't have a ring but they've agreed to get engaged, I just sit there thinking so you have essentially made a promise to promise to Marry?     We got engaged at 16 and 17 after knowing each other for 6 months, he proposed whilst on vacation and on returning we designed our engagement tattoo and both had them tattooed onto our Wedding fingers, my best friends boyfriend (now fiance) took her to Paris and proposed on their hotel balcony and on returning they both choose engagement rings which they both wear, I know people who sat down and discussed it and don't wear rings and got Married.... Many more variations. I think it's a bit old fashioned and outdated idea IMO.

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Yeah. I mean we will get married no doubt. But some just get engaged willy nilly and don't follow through."</blockquote>




Exactly! Kids in high school are getting engaged too...

<blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" ... [snip!] ... engaged willy nilly and don't follow through."</blockquote> Exactly! Kids in high school are getting engaged too..."</blockquote>


Yeah that'd be more of a promise ring type situation IMO. It just depends on where the couple is in their relationship.

<blockquote><b>Quoting xTJ:</b>" Essentially an engagement is simply a promise to Marry. If you have decide to Marry someone and have ... [snip!] ... it and don't wear rings and got Married.... Many more variations. I think it's a bit old fashioned and outdated idea IMO."</blockquote>

Ooh I wanna see a male engagement ring!! Then what do they do with it with the wedding band?

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Yeah that'd be more of a promise ring type situation IMO. It just depends on where the couple is in their relationship."</blockquote>




Yea I agree.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HopingforaMiracle:</b>" In my eyes being engaged is a little ... [snip!] ... grad school, having a baby, etc. I feel really weird saying I'm engaged because it usually means u set a date and we haven't  "

that's how i feel too! we've been engaged for 7 years, together 9, and have yet to tie the knot. we intend to, we just haven't yet.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:</b>" that's how i feel too! we've been engaged for 7 years, together 9, and have yet to tie the knot. we intend to, we just haven't yet."</blockquote>

I hate it honestly. But I'm not willing to settle on a courthouse wedding. I want te wedding I want and I won't settle for anything less. If that means I have to wait longer to make sure I can get what I want then it's worth it. It's not like either of us are going anywhere.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ✩BG Addict✩:</b>" that's how i feel too! we've ... [snip!] ... I have to wait longer to make sure I can get what I want then it's worth it. It's not like either of us are going anywhere."

i would rather have a courthouse wedding...well as of now i would. i just don't want to deal with all the stress and everything that comes with a wedding. if it was a small intimate affair i think i could deal with that.