Quoting Reise's Mommy:" I personally am not a religious person and don't believe a god does or does not exist. Mostly I'm indifferent, ... [snip!] ... is so much larger most of the time. I'm not much help since I don't have faith myself, but I hope things get better for you."
I think you make an amazing point. I find that people tend to pray more of get more religious when times are tough and then get angry when that doesn't make them easier. We aren't puppets, we are human beings given the gift of free will.
I know that I certainly have prayed and prayed and prayed in tough times, but I make a point, knowing how beautiful life can be compared to what it has been, to thank God for helping me get to where I am today.