Quoting SaraSaraBoBara:" I agree. I guess I need to find a way to say that to her without seeming pushy."
Maybe just ask her why she's nervous about it. Maybe the stuff you read her you can tell her and would help calm her fears. Also, maybe bring it up like it might be helpful because she's not helping herself by doing that to her arms!!!!
I want to add. If she is being referred to an Early Intervention program, and she most likely is, then it takes up to 30 days from the date you call to have an evaluation setup. After that, when it's determined what services the child needs they have up to 45 days to schedule a first appointment.
It was the same in both states for us.
For this reason, it's best to get the ball rolling ASAP. Also, if she sets up an eval soon, and by that time it seems he's on track she can always cancel it. No harm done. But if she waits like 2 months thinking he will be fine, and turns out it isn't, he could be 22 months before they even see him for an appointment.