Sex then back rub ?

Ok so since being pregnant im rarely in the mood, and my partner always is. ALWAYS! So when i give it up, it hurts as well as stretching me, my hips seem to click out of place, im breathless, and my hole body feels like its in shut down mode, and after sex i just want a massage to carm me down and make me relax and be sleepy, aswell as help my sore spots from the day. Now my partner on the other hand almost refuses to give me a massage after sex. He says he thinks i knly give him sex for a massage which isnt true. I give him sex for him and sometimes me. How can i let him know its not like that. Because when evdr he says that IT TICKS ME RIGHT OFF AND WE END UP FIGHTING!

Quoting Jenny Cook:" Ok so since being pregnant im rarely in the mood, and my partner always is. ALWAYS! So when i give it ... [snip!] ... me. How can i let him know its not like that. Because when evdr he says that IT TICKS ME RIGHT OFF AND WE END UP FIGHTING!"

By sucking it up and not asking, or changing the way you're doing it so you're not in pain.

If you're fighting about back rubs, it's gonna get a lot worse.

maybe exchange a BJ for a back rub?  

seems fair to me and my husband would totally be down for that.

I feel your pain. I hate sex, even when I am not pregnant. But at least I get back and foot rubs offered afterwards without asking.

I've been in a similar situation, only I was the one being selfish. My DH always gave me rubs, and tried to make me feel good about being pregnant, but I refused to have sex with him because it hurt me. What finally got through to me was one day he brought it up randomly when we both were in a good mood, and he pretty much told me that he was doing everything in his power to meet my needs, and I wasnt being fair by ignoring one of his. What he said made alot of sense, so ever since then I try to make sure he gets some atleast once a week. Maybe you could try that but in reverse lol. Tell him your having sex to make him feel good, so why cant he make you feel good after... If that doesnt work, I'd cut his ass off  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Socialist:</b>" By sucking it up and not asking, or changing the way you're doing it so you're not in pain. If you're fighting about back rubs, it's gonna get a lot worse. "</blockquote>




We only fight about back rubs, and u obviously didnt understand my question it wasnt how to not get back rubs, there is no way to do it and not be in pain, i can barely move anytime, and when i do i cant stand for more than 1min, please dont be rude as i can be quite nice, or not. And dont need your silly comments



And yeah we have tried the bj for a back rub but as soon as im done the bj he wants to do me even if i dont want to he'll do me and then try and have sex. Then he says hes to tired. I know hes being cheeky and lieing

Quoting Jenny Cook:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Socialist:</b>" By sucking it up and not asking, or changing ... [snip!] ... me even if i dont want to he'll do me and then try and have sex. Then he says hes to tired. I know hes being cheeky and lieing"

It honestly sounds like you're wanting more than you're willing to give.

If it's hurting you badly, don't do it. I know that sounds smurffy, and it's not the answer you want, but it may be what's best to keep you going through the pregnancy. It's up to him if he wants to give you a back rub, but how do you know he's not being as truthful as you are in saying he's tired?

I'll ask my hubby for one every now and again, and he'll say his hands are tired. He plays guitar and works with his hands... it's a valid excuse. He'll try if I'm in a lot of pain, but we don't argue about it.

I wish you luck.