Quoting Jenny Cook:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Socialist:</b>" By sucking it up and not asking, or changing ... [snip!] ... me even if i dont want to he'll do me and then try and have sex. Then he says hes to tired. I know hes being cheeky and lieing"
It honestly sounds like you're wanting more than you're willing to give.
If it's hurting you badly, don't do it. I know that sounds smurffy, and it's not the answer you want, but it may be what's best to keep you going through the pregnancy. It's up to him if he wants to give you a back rub, but how do you know he's not being as truthful as you are in saying he's tired?
I'll ask my hubby for one every now and again, and he'll say his hands are tired. He plays guitar and works with his hands... it's a valid excuse. He'll try if I'm in a lot of pain, but we don't argue about it.
I wish you luck.