re: whatever

Quoting Jas ♥:" What the hell is his problem? I agree with the other ladies. If you feel like you have a reason to snoop, snoop. I'd try my damnest to get a hold of his laptop and download a keylogger on that smurf."

i sent you a message on fb.

Quoting buzz killington:" i just asked him if it was because we havent had sex in a while and he said "(laughing) i could give a smurf about that. " and yes i do have my own debit card that i never use "

I'll be praying for you guys. Hopefully you get to the bottom of this soon.

Quoting buzz killington:" i just asked him if it was because we havent had sex in a while and he said "(laughing) i could give a smurf about that. " and yes i do have my own debit card that i never use "

I would straight up tell him to pack his smurf and leave. Or go stay at my parents house and tell him we are over.

<blockquote><b>Quoting buzz killington:</b>" i just asked him if it was because we havent had sex in a while and he said "(laughing) i could give a smurf about that. " and yes i do have my own debit card that i never use "</blockquote>

Smurf that he sounds like an arrogant bastard. I would leave his ass.
I'm sorry your going through this hun.

Quoting FroggysMommy:" I would straight up tell him to pack his smurf and leave. Or go stay at my parents house and tell him we are over."

With my husband when he does this I tell him to basically shape up or ship out.

And that means a weekend with his mother. Who is extremely manipulative and mean to him when he doesn't treat us right. So yeah..

<blockquote><b>Quoting buzz killington:</b>" i try not to smurf talk dh, but he has really been getting on my nerves the past few weeks. he has been ... [snip!] ... everyone kept commenting how ds2 looks like hes not even related to dh. ok. that made me feel great. like that's my fault..."</blockquote>






It sounds as though his family has him convinced that your second son isn't his. He's certainly acting like he thinks you made him with another man:-(. And some people are immature enough to think that any cheating, real OR imagined is grounds for them to step outside the relationship.

That, or he's been wanting out for a while, and is using what his family said about your LO's looks as an excuse to mess around even if he doesn't believe them.

I would definitely be unsettled for quite a few reasons, the biggest one being he's acting like a jackass towards your younger son for no reason whatsoever. Tell him that whatever is going on in his head can be hashed out with you and that he shouldn't take anything out on an innocent baby. Showing one child more attention than the other is beyond smurfed up.

Another thing I would take issue with is the phone call. I had something similar happen to me with a guy I dated and lived with for two years. I eventually found out the text was from my best friend. A month later he had moved in with her and a few weeks after that she was pregnant. It was very Jerry Springer-ish... Now I seriously doubt your husband is carrying out some kind of scandalous affair but it's never good when someone tries to hide something. Given that he's also an officer in the Army he should REALLY be careful about conveying anything unusual to not just you but anyone in general. His career could be on the line. Over 150 Navy officers were let go in 2011 because of extra-marital affairs.

With that being said, maybe it's something as innocuous as him being a dick for the hell of it or maybe he has a bill collector calling him for something he doesn't want to talk about.

As for the computer, it's just weird that he would feel the need to start locking it up when he leaves. How do you feel about porn? If you guys aren't having much sex then he's probably seeking another outlet and like most guys he probably views porn on a somewhat regular basis. Could he be trying to hide any evidence of this? Talk to him about how you feel on porn because if anything it's a good conversation to have when you're in a relationship.

One more thing: I just read the last few messages and it sounds like he has some kind of internal issue going on here. He's really being a dick and it sounds totally unwarranted. Don't let him bully you out of getting an answer. You need to get to the bottom of what's going on. I'm sorry you're going through this =( Just know that even though it might feel really hopeless at some points a lot of marriages hit extremely rough patches and continue on just fine.

Quoting Raptor Jesus:" I would definitely be unsettled for quite a few reasons, the biggest one being he's acting like a jackass ... [snip!] ... though it might feel really hopeless at some points a lot of marriages hit extremely rough patches and continue on just fine. "

This!

When i read ops post i immediatly thought that he thinks the youngest isnt his, not cheating. Maybe hes telling his family/friends that he thinks you cheated and didnt answer because you were there. He could be looking up DNA testing ect... on his computer and doesnt want you to know. Since your not having sex he may be angry with you but No matter whats going on he shouldnt be treating you or the baby like that & you need to put your foot down