somedays being a single mom sucks

I am a single mom to 2 boys who are 22 months and 4 months old. I was just diagnosed with post pardum depression and they also said i have a hormone imbalance and the only way to fix it is if i go on a birth control pill. The only problem is im not aloud to go on birth control pills due to having a seizure disorder and any birth control can reverse the effects of my seizure meds. How do other single moms get through with the post pardum depression? Somedays i do nothing but cry and other days i dont even want to hold my 4 month old. Its not that bad i get through day by day but i would like to be able to get through more than get by id like to be able to really enjoy my kids again. My doctor prescribed me zoloft but it doesnt seem to be helping me at all so far. If any other moms been through what did you do that helped?

are you on Trileptal? Cause I'm having a hard time finding a birth control I can use on it

I'm getting pissed off

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" are you on Trileptal? Cause I'm having a hard time finding a birth control I can use on it I'm getting pissed off"

yup thats exactly what im on

Im not a single mom...but depression or not I always wonder how you women do it. I dont think I would be good, my SOs help and support definately get me through alot.

But...I did go from a working mom to a SAHM, with SO working overtime to compensate our money loss. Which kinda left me like a single mother. I was in a severe depression ( my son was born with cancer, was on chemo till he was 15 months, had 2 ribs removed when he was 9 months, I returned to work when he was 1 and was there till he was 2.5..it was horrible and I had no time with him, I got fired for no reason...and found myself a SAHM)
My friends didnt understand how/why I was so depressed as I was finally at home with my son. But post truamatic stress had set in BIG TIME plus the depression of losing my job as I was the major bread winner and loved my job (just not doing it while my son was sick).
I would find myself hiding from my son   And one day while feeding him lunch I just could not stop crying. I wasnt sleeping worth smurf, cause I couldnt turn my mind off, and then Id be dragging all day. I finally asked my Dr for help and he gave me Lorazapam (sp?) It helps turn off my thoughts and anxiety so I could fall asleep. I started getting better rest and was better in the day.


I also started reading positive type books. Daily little reminder kinds of things that would help my faith and belief that things WILL GET BETTER. I recently started reading 'The Secret' again. Its helping me stay focused on my attitude, looking at the good in life and being thankful for what I do have. Now Im pregnant and cant take my anxiety pills...so Im trying real hard to stay happy.

I know no 2 depressions are the same, and Ive never had PPD, but I do understand what you are going through in a way, and I do believe we have to look deep inside and be a bit selfish at times to be betters moms.

Good luck hun

Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" yup thats exactly what im on"

There are like no options for a hormonal BC on Trileptal. You can't even take the morning after pill  

I don't have advice, but I have a lot of experience with depression and anxiety so if you need to talk about anything, PM me.

I'm on Trileptal as a Mood Stabilizer, not as an anti-seizure med

Quoting Shannonsfirst:" Im not a single mom...but depression or not I always wonder how you women do it. I dont think I would ... [snip!] ... in a way, and I do believe we have to look deep inside and be a bit selfish at times to be betters moms. Good luck hun"

your one strong women i dont know what i would do if one of my sons got sick like that. I would love to know some of the books you read maybe they would help me some. i keep telling myself this depression has to go away at some point

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" There are like no options for a hormonal BC on Trileptal. You can't even take the morning after pill ... [snip!] ... and anxiety so if you need to talk about anything, PM me. I'm on Trileptal as a Mood Stabilizer, not as an anti-seizure med"

there are no options with trileptal at all ive looked into everything even alot of the anit depressants i cant take. i didnt know it was a mood stabilizer though cause it doesnt work for me that way. im just so tired of feeling this way and i feel like i dont have much of a bond with my 4 month old because of it all

Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" there are no options with trileptal at all ive looked into everything even alot of the anit depressants ... [snip!] ... that way. im just so tired of feeling this way and i feel like i dont have much of a bond with my 4 month old because of it all"

It took me ages to bond with Cora.

You'll get there. Don't forget to stay in therapy. Look into group therapy (DBT and CBT are awesome)

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" It took me ages to bond with Cora. You'll get there. Don't forget to stay in therapy. Look into group therapy (DBT and CBT are awesome) "

I have an awesome bond with my 22 month old he is such a mommys boy but my 4 month old doesnt even like me. I wish i could get into a group therapy but i have my kids basically 24/7 their dad sees them maybe a day in 3 weeks and my mom works all the time so i dont even have anyone to watch them while i go to therapy

Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" I have an awesome bond with my 22 month old he is such a mommys boy but my 4 month old doesnt even like ... [snip!] ... sees them maybe a day in 3 weeks and my mom works all the time so i dont even have anyone to watch them while i go to therapy"

hmm. Can you look into a moms group? Find a babysitter?

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" hmm. Can you look into a moms group? Find a babysitter? "

i have but theres none around me at all

Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" I am a single mom to 2 boys who are 22 months and 4 months old. I was just diagnosed with post pardum ... [snip!] ... me zoloft but it doesnt seem to be helping me at all so far. If any other moms been through what did you do that helped?"

I'm on effexor. It helps take the edge off. And also counselling.