Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Maybe it's me, but I have no problem telling other children they need to clean up. I always remind them ... [snip!] ... supper, I gladly set the table and offer to clean the dishes. Sometimes it is refused, but it is just the courtesy to offer. "
Maybe I should have just stepped in. I mean, I always make my kids clean up when we go to their house. I don't expect perfection but see..our house is 750 sq ft. Our living room is about 150 sq ft with a couch, a chair, a coffee table and a bookshelf. In other words, toys. were. everywhere.