TTC and plus size?

Any plus size mamas TTC ?

Im 5'8" and was 170lbs when I got pregnant with my 1st. 230lbs when I got pregnant with my 2nd and 250 when I got pregnant with my 3rd. All 3 of these pregnancies were because of failed birth control. My oldest is 3, so they were all pretty much back to back.

Now, my son is 6 months old and I'm 290lbs. We are thinking about TTC our last baby, wanting to keep the same age gap as the others, and I cant stop thinking about my size and how I will look super pregnant  

In a perfect world Id lose weight while pregnant like I hear with a lot of plus size mamas, but my world is definitely not perfect. I'm having a huge struggle right now! Part of me wants to lose all the weight first (Id need to lose almost 100lbs) before getting pregnant again, but that could take years. I'm just not sure how to feel better about it or what to do

Well what causes the weight gain? Is it hormonal or lifestyle habits? You can at least eat healthy maybe go for walks etc small things like that to kind.of jump start potential weight loss. I mean you don't have to lose 100lbs then.get pregnant but any weight loss would be better than nothing. Plus you never know, with my first son I gained 58lbs with my second son I lost 18 then gained it back and only gained 5 extra pounds after that then dropped 25 right after he was born and I binged on pizza for 5 months straight and I'm overweight.

Are your cycles regular and do you know that you are ovulating?

Quoting :*:CHRiSTiNe:*::" Well what causes the weight gain? Is it hormonal or lifestyle habits? You can at least eat healthy maybe ... [snip!] ... extra pounds after that then dropped 25 right after he was born and I binged on pizza for 5 months straight and I'm overweight."

Probably more lifestyle than anything. I mean, I look at food and gain weight haha and have always been up and down, but I should be eating better and exercising and I'm not.

I dont have an excuse for being this overweight. And I think in my head I will watch what I eat more closely through my pregnancy...but really I should be starting that now. I know a lot of overweight women get pregnant and have a healthy baby...I'm just scared I will not want to leave the house for 9 months because of the way I look. I'm not used to this much extra fat. Gah.

Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Are your cycles regular and do you know that you are ovulating?"

Ever since Ive had my period Ive known right when I ovulate...now 6 months after having my son I have random periods, miss periods and am cramping 24/7...so at this point I have no idea really. We had sex without protection (Im not on BC, just using condoms) once after saying ok lets do it...but now that I think about this weight issue I'm 2nd guessing things!

Quoting L&B +1:" Ever since Ive had my period Ive known right when I ovulate...now 6 months after having my son I have ... [snip!] ... BC, just using condoms) once after saying ok lets do it...but now that I think about this weight issue I'm 2nd guessing things!"

I ask because when I was 290 (5'5") I wasn't ovulating anymore. It took about a 20lb weight loss for my cycles to become very regular again. I would (at first) work on losing just enough weight to get my cycles back. If they're irregular because of weight, then the weight is causing your hormones to be not compatible with pregnancy. If you do get pregnant, the eggs is more likely to be of lesser quality and you're more at risk for miscarriage because of that, and also more at risk for miscarriage because your hormones are out of whack.

At 290 the prospect of losing weight to have a healthy pregnancy was very scary for me. I failed at every diet I had ever tried and I was terrified of failing again. Having such a small weightloss goal gave me the courage to go for it. My doctor put me on an Atkins diet and in the time it took to lose that little bit of weight I learned a lot about changing my lifestyle instead of dieting, and about choosing foods for satiety and ignoring calories which caused me to consume less calories in the end. I also found a way to work out that was actually fun.

Once I got my cyles got back on track I had begun to feel really empowered by the lifestyle change. It was comfortable for me and I knew I could keep it up long term so I had the courage to continue with it. In the 2-3 years since I've lost about 50 more pounds. It is slow progress. However, it is not the amount of weight I've lost that is important, but that I have been able to keep off every pound I lose.

Good luck with it all. I know it's intimidating! I hope whatever you do the result is a healthy baby and healthy mom.  

Quoting Amelia Margaret:" I ask because when I was 290 (5'5") I wasn't ovulating anymore. It took about a 20lb weight loss for ... [snip!] ... Good luck with it all. I know it's intimidating! I hope whatever you do the result is a healthy baby and healthy mom.  "

I need to feel that way. I need that empowerment to stick with it. Maybe working towards pregnancy is what I need to encourage myself to stick with it. The only diet Ive really lost weight on is weight watchers and I never stuck with it.

How did you know you werent ovulating?

Quoting L&B +1:" I need to feel that way. I need that empowerment to stick with it. Maybe working towards pregnancy is ... [snip!] ... The only diet Ive really lost weight on is weight watchers and I never stuck with it. How did you know you werent ovulating?"

I had started seeing an RE for fertility treatments and he ordered a post ovulation progesterone test. I was still getting fairly regular periods, just not ovulating. Temping/charting will also tell you if you ovulate but it takes a bit to get used to it.

ETA It was my BBT chart that told me when I started ovulating again.