re: Pushy MIL

Quoting Callie L. La Hoya:" Yes, she definitely should have. The fact that she didn't will only add to your "ammo" as far as why ... [snip!] ... I did because apparently you didn't respond to my requests, now I will just DEMAND that our rules as parents are followed.""

Exactly... and like with the feeding thing, I think next time I will just go up to her and say "she NEEDS feeding" and just take her... besides the fact it knocks my confidence when MIL pulls DD away from me, it's so unfair on her when she is crying her eyes out because she is hungry and can't have any food for a while! my poor baby  

Like I said earlier, I want us to all get along, I don't want tension between the family and I want to be relaxed but at the moment it is neither of those things and I really don't want DD to have my MIL as her mother because she's not!

Quoting NatashaHarper:" This! She does that pouty 3 year old face. it winds me the smurf up! My mum is really good and respects ... [snip!] ... FIL being understanding, but i guess i was wrong! Yeah i need to just man up and set the rules, it's got too out of control!"

yeah i put up with it for 2 months for SO, but when she tried to snatch him from me i was so mad. Then she fell and all i could think of was if i hadn't have put my foot down she would have had Adan with her when she fell. He could have went in the water or gotten crushed if she fell on him. So i took away her privelilge to hold him until she started listening to me. Now i dont have any problems telling her she is being too pushy. She still pouts but it doesnt bother me anymore

Quoting Adan's Mama  :" yeah i put up with it for 2 months for SO, but when she tried to snatch him from me i was so mad. Then ... [snip!] ... to me. Now i dont have any problems telling her she is being too pushy. She still pouts but it doesnt bother me anymore"

That would have been disasterous! I'm so glad she didn't manage to get your LO... something really bad could have happened!
I'm going to start putting my foot down now... from having this big vent today it's made me realise that there are a hell of a lot of issues that need sorting, it's got way too out of control now!

Not to be mean, but isn't your daughter only like 3 weeks old? So when you say "every weekend", do you mean the past three? Because at this age I can kind of understand...babies change really fast.

Maybe they'll get better as she gets older. I mean it definitely sounds like they're overstepping a little and they should clear it with you before they spend the whole weekend there. I do understand pushy MILs...we are living with mine currently (DH had lost his job and I'm on maternity leave), but now that we're looking for a new place she's having a cow because we're "taking her grandchildren away from her".

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lizplustwo:</b>" Not to be mean, but isn't your daughter only like 3 weeks old? So when you say "every weekend", do you ... [snip!] ... leave), but now that we're looking for a new place she's having a cow because we're "taking her grandchildren away from her". "</blockquote>




She will be 4 weeks tomorrow, it's been 4 weekends, 1 visit when we were at the hospital and at least 3 other visits between. I should mention we were there for 4 days over Christmas and she was like this for the whole 4 days. Yes they do change, but they don't change every single second so there is no need for her to have her every second is there? I wouldn't mind as much if she just came down for lunch or dinner on EITHER Saturday OR Sunday, but not both! My DD isn't going to suddenly change from Saturday to sunday is she? See my point? This is why I said that of course I want them to see them so they can see her progressing but this is a bit excessive.

It just seems that they've seen her more often than not so far.
I'm just stressed.

Quoting NatashaHarper:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lizplustwo:</b>" Not to be mean, but isn't your daughter only ... [snip!] ... progressing but this is a bit excessive. It just seems that they've seen her more often than not so far. I'm just stressed."

yeah, plus at a month old i really didnt want anyone else hold ds because i was a new mommy. We only see SO's parents once a week sometimes once every two weeks. I totally understand that you want your new baby to yourself a lot. Its part of being mommy. Just talk to her, try not to get too worked up while you are talking to her.   Good Luck