Quoting Callie L. La Hoya:" Yes, she definitely should have. The fact that she didn't will only add to your "ammo" as far as why ... [snip!] ... I did because apparently you didn't respond to my requests, now I will just DEMAND that our rules as parents are followed.""
Exactly... and like with the feeding thing, I think next time I will just go up to her and say "she NEEDS feeding" and just take her... besides the fact it knocks my confidence when MIL pulls DD away from me, it's so unfair on her when she is crying her eyes out because she is hungry and can't have any food for a while! my poor baby
Like I said earlier, I want us to all get along, I don't want tension between the family and I want to be relaxed but at the moment it is neither of those things and I really don't want DD to have my MIL as her mother because she's not!