Quoting ✰ Mrs. B ✰:" I'm sorry you're going through this. And yes, I understand that you feel grandparents have a right to ... [snip!] ... (every weekend for a month, etc.) is an extended period of time given the stressful circumstances it causes for DD and you."
Yeah this is why i posted this here... I have put up with it for this long and i thought that it would be like this for the first 2 maybe 3 weeks at a push, and i was willing to accept that because that's just the type of person she is, but it has been going on for far too long now. There's being excited about your first grandchild and there's being posessive and, IMO, obsessed!
I do agree, me and SO need a big talk... I have told him how i feel about this but i don't think he really understands the severity of the situation and the stress it is putting on me.
When DD was 2 weeks old MIL and FIL insisted on taking DD out for a walk in her pram (there was no negotiation on this, they were GOING for a walk with DD) without us and I really wasn't comfortable with that, and I just cried the whole time they were gone because she was only 2 weeks old and i wasn't with her! I mean ffs, i had had her for only 2 weeks!
Also when DD was around 2 weeks old, I asked MIL to have a cuddle with her (I can't believe I have to as to hold my own daughter) and she had the cheek to turn around and say "but you have her all day, everyday"
I had to go into another room because i needed to bawl my eyes out! she was around 14 days old and yes, i have her all day every day (well in fact i don't because MIL has her for the whole of saturday and sunday) but she is so so new and we need to BOND!!!