Quoting Brookelynn's Mommy:" Thank you. She is extremely smart and comes up with questions that I can't even believe sometimes, which ... [snip!] ... die. I can be straight forward about it, but I just don't want to be too cold about it, if you get what I'm trying to say."
Absolutely. And that is hard. I DO believe in heaven, and the likes, but I do not want to force my beliefs on my kids. So, when I was asked, we made it a discussion of "what do you believe?" With my oldest she was quiet, reserved and it wasn't until several weeks later she came to me with her "version" of what happens. And well, we left it at that. Because really, I do not know if I am right. Or wrong. It is what I believe, my beliefs are no more right than yours, kwim? There ARE downsides to this belief system. A few months after my grandfather died we were driving. She was 4 at the time, my 5 yr old was just 2 months old. She says to me "Mommy, I just can't wait to die! I am going to be sooo happy when I die." I nearly wrecked, I swear lol. I kept asking her to change the subject, and she would say "Why? Everyone dies. It's a part of life. I'll die, my brother will die. Even you will die. Then, we will go to Heaven and spend forever." SMH, she still has this belief and doesn't have a single fear of death. I suppose that's ok, but I wish she wasn't so.........crass about it at times. My 5 yr old still hasn't decided where he thinks we go after death. Questions like that you really can't answer. You can tell them what you think, but we don't have proof one way or the other, kwim?