Nevermind!! My sister took me to a local boutique that lets you try on carriers. The ergo didn't fit right on my arms and the buckle was in my arm fat so that one won't work..had to use an extender. BUT they suggested a Beco Butterfly and that one fit great, didn't even feel it with the stupidly heavy fake baby they stuck in it LOL SO looks like that is what I'll be getting! Thanks for your input!!