<blockquote><b>Quoting Bettinas:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bettinas:</b>" ... [snip!] ... going to be scrolling through this site and see this picture. I just don't think it's appropriate for that type of situation  "</blockquote>

My pics are on FB. Many of my friends let their children see him.

Plenty of us here put warnings for nudity, etc because we have children in the room when we are online.


Playing devils advocate.

Huuuuum...

That baby hasbeen gone for a while, judging by the appearance of the skin. That, in itself, is very very weird.

I would guess the gestationnal age to be between 14-17 weeks :/
My son looked similar to that and had approximately that size when he passed, at 14 weeks.
I am glad she got totake a picture...but it looks like she has waited a WHILE before taking that picture. Which leaves me wondering about a lot of things.

I am jealous, in a way because I never got to hold or see my son once I got to the hospital. They took him away from me and sent him for an autopsy, then I have no clue about what happenned to his little body and THAT HURTS. But yeah...I don,t think keeping the body of your deceased child in your house is healthy...at all. My heart breaks for the poor girl :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting Hodor(20 weeks):</b>" Huuuuum... That baby hasbeen gone for a while, judging by the appearance of the skin. That, in itself, ... [snip!] ... don,t think keeping the body of your deceased child in your house is healthy...at all. My heart breaks for the poor girl :/"</blockquote>




I agree. It's heartbreaking for this girl.

I'm sorry for your loss

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lucas'Mama:</b>" Also, don't you legally have to fill out a ... [snip!] ... papers I have to keep with his ashes just to be able to possess them. Can't fly or cross state lines with the ashes otherwise!"

Wow, really? I didn't know that. I thought once they were cremated that was that, I didn't realise you had to have papers with them  

Quoting nursemaya -mommy to 2:" unless the baby was REALLY small for gestational age, I would guess this baby was born well before that I would guess 18 weeks, but I could be wrong"

I'm not sure. I know in NZ it's once baby is past 20 weeks it's considered a still birth as opposed to miscarriage and you need to register their birth and properly dispose of the remains. I'm not sure how that would work with home births though

Quoting Lucas'Mama:" I'm not sure. I know in NZ it's once baby is past 20 weeks it's considered a still birth as opposed ... [snip!] ... you need to register their birth and properly dispose of the remains. I'm not sure how that would work with home births though"

It's the same here.

That picture breaks my heart. I think in the state of mind I was in when I had my first miscarriage 10 years ago at 25.... I cant say I wouldnt have kept her either, had I not had a D&E. I did NOT handle my grief well, and let it consume my entire life. I needed help and didnt get it. Took a LONG time to get over.

My miscarriage last month was completely different. Its almost like I blocked the entire thing out.  

I'm sorry for my ignorance but, is that the actual baby?  

I wonder if that's the only outfit she could find to fit and just dressed the baby once to have it clothed? I doubt she was playing dress up with it and changing clothes often. She would probably be afraid of any of the body parts being damaged if she handled her too much.  

Quoting Ellie.:" It's the same here. That picture breaks my heart. I think in the state of mind I was in when I ... [snip!] ... time to get over. My miscarriage last month was completely different. Its almost like I blocked the entire thing out.  "

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I've had one early loss, I would have been between 7 and 9 weeks, but I was young and it didn't really affect me then like it does now. Now that I have DS and I realise what that baby could have been, it's kind of hit me a lot harder. It also happened at a time in my life where I was drinking and partying heavily. So I definitely blocked it out big time.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" It's the same here. That picture breaks my heart. I think in the state of mind I was in when I ... [snip!] ... time to get over. My miscarriage last month was completely different. Its almost like I blocked the entire thing out.  "</blockquote>

My first rocked my world too. Id had a chemical before but baby was unplanned and i was young and had no idea about anything with my body and i literally found out i was pregnant and started bleeding same day. i assumed it was a faulty test and never grieved---learned diff when i had another chemical years later and did more research---12 weeks and I was BLINDSIDED by it.

Then when my son died I was non-functional for a while too.

My earlier miscarriages now don't effect me the same way. It still hurts and I grieve but it's not a shocking and raw wound like the first and my 23 weeker did.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" I wonder if that's the only outfit she could find to fit and just dressed the baby once to have it clothed? ... [snip!] ... and changing clothes often. She would probably be afraid of any of the body parts being damaged if she handled her too much.  "</blockquote>



I wondered that too. But the body isn't new, so he's had the baby a while like that. Doesn't mean she's continually playing dress up, by any means. I was so nervous to change my son's clothes for his funeral because his skin was so thin.

My first miscarriage literally ruined my life... I am still trying to fix things since then. I really needed counseling and it seems this girl does too. I hope she gets it and can find some peace with things.

I think its weird if she was to keep the baby.

After losing both babies, I hasn't able to think straight or do much for a while. I stayed in my bed most of the time and grieved there.

Quoting Lucas'Mama:" I'm not sure. I know in NZ it's once baby is past 20 weeks it's considered a still birth as opposed ... [snip!] ... you need to register their birth and properly dispose of the remains. I'm not sure how that would work with home births though"

yes but what I'm saying is that baby is not greater then 20 weeks and would not need such paperwork

I think it is fine if that's the way she grieves, but posting it on facebook... maybe not. I have pictures of my son that I have shown on here because it is a forum for mothers but I only post his urn on facebook. Also I agree with what another mom said that baby looks like it has been gone for awhile and was definitely about 15 weeks give or take a week. My son was almost 17 weeks and that is how he looked... We were deefinitely not allowed to keep him though. We either had to sign his remains over to the hospital or a funeral home to have them handle everything.