What to do when no family around to help you leave emotional

Do you take yourself and your kids to a womens shelter? or do you stay with him a few more months, save money and get your own place and THEN leave him??

the emotional abuse is not all the time but it is frequent that he says horrible, outragous things when we have a disagreement and does not care nor does he ever apologize. i am mostly concerned about the affect it is having on my daughter, shes from my previous relationship whom my husband straight up told me he does not like her. he will either ignore her or taunt her in a very immature way (such as making farting noises and blaming her for two days in a row when she says it is not funny any more, is in tears bc its become obnoxious and pleaded him to stop, he then tells her he doesnt like her anyway and has told ME aside that he doesnt know why he doesnt like her but that it is maybe because she has my EXes face!!).

He is no longer physically abusive to me, he got help with that but he is certainly emotionally and verbally at times and I have bouts of extreme resentment towards him that I feel so enraged I want to hurt him physically. But now that it is directly happening to my daughter I feel inclined to get out right away BUT I have no money saved and my family does not see the severity of this so my only option would be a womens shelther (i worry about the affect taht would have on my daughter as well)

Whats going to affect your daughter more being abused by your SO or being in a shelter. Did you tell your family what he said about your daughter?

You go to a friend's house, travel to a family member's house, or go to a shelter. Talk to the police about places for abused women.

It's never going to be EASY and it's never going to get EASIER to get out of an abusive relationship. You just do it and bust your ass not to fail.

Quoting Jennybananna:" Whats going to affect your daughter more being abused by your SO or being in a shelter. Did you tell your family what he said about your daughter?"

yes. they say," oh taht is really sad and that horrible we want to be there for you emotionally but you cannot stay in our house"

Quoting nzoya:" yes. they say," oh taht is really sad and that horrible we want to be there for you emotionally but you cannot stay in our house""

Why will they not let you stay in their house?

Quoting Red Bottom:" You go to a friend's house, travel to a family member's house, or go to a shelter. Talk to the police ... [snip!] ... EASY and it's never going to get EASIER to get out of an abusive relationship. You just do it and bust your ass not to fail. "

i did it a while ago but he reeled me back in after taking anger management and what not...here we are back at square one and im dependant on him financially with no money and no place to go.

Quoting nzoya:" yes. they say," oh taht is really sad and that horrible we want to be there for you emotionally but you cannot stay in our house""

Be an example to your daughter. Unfortunately there won't always be people there to help you. Sometimes you just have to do it yourself.

Quoting nzoya:" yes. they say," oh taht is really sad and that horrible we want to be there for you emotionally but you cannot stay in our house""

Then go to a shelter. Protect yourself and your daughter at all costs. Things could be way worse in a few months.

Quoting nzoya:" i did it a while ago but he reeled me back in after taking anger management and what not...here we are back at square one and im dependant on him financially with no money and no place to go. "

Well now you know that he's incapable of changing, and that you need to get out more now than ever. It's never going to get easier.

Quoting Not tellin:" Why will they not let you stay in their house? "

my mother has severe mental problems and cannot handle the noise children make or she will have a mental breakdown and end up hospitalized.

Quoting Jennybananna:" Then go to a shelter. Protect yourself and your daughter at all costs. Things could be way worse in a few months."

truth..

Quoting nzoya:" my mother has severe mental problems and cannot handle the noise children make or she will have a mental breakdown and end up hospitalized. "

That sounds like a serious cop out excuse. Sorry but, I have never heard something that silly before.

Maybe if you can't stay there, they can at least help you get in somewhere!

Take yourself to the HRDC or social services department in your area and let them know about your situation. They will help you get out and on your feet.

Where I live if you go to a womens shelter with a child it does not take them long to find you emergency houseing. I would suggest looking into that.