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You said you would be a surrogate, as in carry their child. You never said you would give them your egg, therefore your child. That is two very different things.

Can u just tell her you meant you would if it was legal and they paid properly and it was their egg etc. and they don't have the money so won't ask again

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I can see you being taken to court for child support for this. #1 he's your boyfriend, not your husband. ... [snip!] ... okay with this....yet they have a few grand to hand you when it's all said and done? I see this being on dateline in 5 years. "</blockquote>




This!

I was gonna do this same thing fo ra freind... and we agreed to try it "turkey" baster way a couple times and then go for IUI if it didnt work since thats pretty cheap.. but since i didnt have insurance they wanted me to get medicaid and lie and say her husband knocked me up and im signing over my rights like adoption.


i was not down for that and backed out of it. i dont think helping someone you know is a good idea.. especially if its your own eggs. i had to back down.

now I will be a gestational carrier in the future but not my own eggs.... im glad i never went through with it,

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I don't think its mean. and honestly I can't believe they would expect you to just give them your egg

ETA: I believe you, but can't believe the nerve of them to ask

What did she say to your message?

Tell them you are more interested in gestational surrogacy than donating your own egg.   Sorry they don't have money for it, but maybe they should look into it more.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" What did she say to your message?"</blockquote>


I haven't gotten a reply.. I think she's pissed off  
Hopefully she was asleep or something, I hate this.
I'm afraid my SO's boss will be mad at him too and we CANNOT afford for him to lose his job.  

Quoting Ole' No Name:" I just texted her this: We talked about it for a while. And I don't think emotionally I could handle ... [snip!] ... now. It would just weigh on me that it was actually my biological child. know what I mean? That's not mean right?      "

I wouldn't even consider it if it were her eggs.

She's not a family member or long time friend...she's your boyfriend's boss....

Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" What did she say to your message?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... or something, I hate this. I'm afraid my SO's boss will be mad at him too and we CANNOT afford for him to lose his job.  "

Oh he will not lose his job. If he did you could sue that company for a TON of money, over them firing him for you not being willing to have her husband's baby and then you let them adopt it. His job is the most secure position in that company.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ole' No Name:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" What did she say to your message?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... or something, I hate this. I'm afraid my SO's boss will be mad at him too and we CANNOT afford for him to lose his job.  "</blockquote>



If he does, sue the smurf out of them. Sorry mama!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Oh he wil ll not lose his job. If he did you could sue that company for a TON of money, over them firing ... [snip!] ... being willing to have her husband's baby and then you let them adopt it. His job is the most secure position in that company. "</blockquote>



What if they find another reasons to fire him?
I mean he's never been late, never missed a day in the whole 8 months he's worked there.
But he smokes weed and if they drug test him he can lose his job.. And i think his boss knows he smokes  

Quoting Ole' No Name:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Oh he wil ll not lose his job. If he did ... [snip!] ... he's worked there. But he smokes weed and if they drug test him he can lose his job.. And i think his boss knows he smokes  "

Then he's an idiot for smoking weed, knowing that they can drug test him at random and that he can lose his job over it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Then he's an idiot for smoking weed, knowing that they can drug test him at random and that he can lose his job over it. "</blockquote>




They don't drug test randomly.
He didn't even get tested to be hired, he only gets tested if he has an accident at work and needs to go to the hospital.