pretty self explanatory...

whats your poll?


for the most part DD is supposed to clean it up herself.. we will assist her sometimes if we need it done quickly, or if i want it super organized.
is she still too young for this?? because she usually wont do it unless im constantly telling her too... she will spend ALL DAY in her room when she is supposed to clean it and she wont touch anything  
and then some days she will clean it all real quickly (minus a few small things)
i just remember always cleaning my own room... but i dont know before i was old enough.

he could clean it by himself but that would take forever.. so i help him and make a game out of it so it actually gets done

Big difference between a young 4 and an older 4.
My daughter recently turned 4 and there is NO WAY she'd be able to clean her room.
We focus on having her help me make the bed (joke!), throwing dirty clothing in the basket and keeping her clean clothes off of the floor.
In a few weeks more i will ask a little more of her.
I'm not sure when she will handle it mostly on her own. I hope soon!

Most of the time I help them, DS will get in these moods and clean his whole room until its pretty much spotless, DD will pick up a few things but I have to force her to help pick up most days.

The kids are 3 and 5.
They do it by themselves....but they won't stay on track unless I'm sitting in there watching them do it. lol

ok this sounds like my daughter. im glad shes not like going through this disobedient stage even more. lol

today she pulled down her pet net thats over her bed.. so not only did she get all hergames out theres 100+ stuffed animals everywhere and i just dont want to clean it. :| im tired of it! everyday. within 15 mins its a mess.

Quoting Dean Winchester:" ok this sounds like my daughter. im glad shes not like going through this disobedient stage even more. ... [snip!] ... 100+ stuffed animals everywhere and i just dont want to clean it. :| im tired of it! everyday. within 15 mins its a mess."

Haha....mine do this.

I sat in there with them while they cleaned it earlier. It was spotless. I literally had time to get dinner STARTED. Not even finished....and it was a disaster again.  

Quoting Ashley Jean ♥:" Haha....mine do this. I sat in there with them while they cleaned it earlier. It was spotless. I literally had time to get dinner STARTED. Not even finished....and it was a disaster again.   "

i want to give up on her room (until i can get all her shelves made and everything) but i hate messes. but my wholehouse is a mess   ive had no motivation. maybe tomorrow ill manage to squeeze her room in too...

Does she have a place for everything?
Does she have too much stuff?
Do you give her small specific tasks to do?

No to any of them can mean it's too overwhelming or ambiguous for them.

With your part 4 question, by doing things infront of your child you are teaching them. You model and they imitate, it's how all healthy children learn   So when you tidy your house and keep your things nice, she learns to do the same. When you tidy her toys, or ask her to put something away, and she asks why, you explain why and then she learns etc etc.

Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" Does she have a place for everything? Does she have too much stuff? Do you give her small specific tasks ... [snip!] ... same. When you tidy her toys, or ask her to put something away, and she asks why, you explain why and then she learns etc etc."

-her blankets and pillows she can just put on her bed (i make her bed)
-her toys go in a big box in her closet or they go in her kitchen (her play food and dishes do)
- well if im in there i do.. i have to tell her one thing then wait then do another.. but its not working today!!!

i usually keep my house in tip top shape. after my miscarriage last week i have been trying to take it easy and ive dropped the ball a lil but im done bleeding so i am going to pick back up tomorrow.. take christmas down and clean like i usually do.
and i help her clean her room about 75% of the time. and by help ill do one task, give her one, etc etc.

my daughter is 5....if i send her to clean her room she will do a pretty good job,....til i open the closet and its all a mess in there... but, theres a lot of puzzle pieces, etc in there, so i help her with that part...

so, she mostly does it herself... as far as dolls, barbies, blankets, and whatever, i make her do that part. but its not hard... she was taught it at daycare

Hugs for the m/c  

Have you tried or got space to have individual storage with photo's on so she can see what goes where? DS isn't 4 for a while but when i tidy he joins in. He can tolerate more mess than me, so our needs are mismatched on that. Clutter drives me bonkers, so whilst he can keep playing i need to tidy up. So i'll tidy (since it's to help me) and ask him to do certain things and it seems to work. He prefers cleaning then tidying, i guess it's still a novelty lol. I will put something away and he'll help.

He likes emptying things, sorting, washing/wiping, polishing, drying and moving things, so i'll ask him to do those things all around the house, and i'm better at noticing what's messy, gathering stuff, organizing and putting things away, so i do those bits. So we share jobs for the whole house working on each others strengths, rather than him just doing his whole room and me doing the rest of the house. It makes it easier for both of us.

Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" Hugs for the m/c   Have you tried or got space to have individual storage with photo's on so she can ... [snip!] ... strengths, rather than him just doing his whole room and me doing the rest of the house. It makes it easier for both of us."

thank you.

i had each bin (from a storage thing i accidently left back in tx when we pcs'd) for each diff toy but no pictures and we just stacked those in the closet.. but that didnt work. so we went back to just a toybox for everything minus kitchen, games, and little people. once we build her shelving unit

we will be making this soon:

thats when i will have bins with pictures... so right now its just put in one big box :| not hard at all... and she wants to help here but theres not much to help me with. i have a hard time doing the floors (i give up because of our dog) maybe ill have her help me do the whole house and not just her room... thats a good idea.