Apparently I'm already a bad mom(vent)

I don't talk to my mother. She's a terrible person, but every once in a while I get hope that she's change, and so she called the other (atm and not because of money SO and I share a cell phone. I'm home all day and have a house phone, and his work is connected to our home.) So I don't want one. After I left home at 17 my mother cut mine off and I never got a steady phone again by choice. I was tired of living my life around a cell phone. I was the type that would lose my phone and have a panic attack. So I'm in my 9 month. I don't leave the house, if I do I take 'the' cell phone, or make sure if I'm with someone they have a phone. And my mother said "What kind of mother are you already going to be, if you don't even carry a cell phone..."

Does that really look back on my future parenting skill? I plan to get one once she's born. But atm cells phones at least in my life cause problems especially if my mother gets a hold of the number. Which this was brought up by her offering a phone, and I told her it wasn't a money thing it was a preference but thanks anyways. And she then went on to saying what she said. And I just hung up. I'm just curious if that would REALLY make me a bad mom? I have plenty of emergency contact lines. The house phone, my duplex/neighbor our homes are connected 5 ft to the left of our home, is SO all day... I felt this was a stupid thing for her to say, seeing as she really was a terrible mother. But a phone... Really that's what constitutes being a careless mother apparently. And like I said once my baby girl is born I plan to get one.

I don't have a cell phone. Never been so happy.

I most be the worst parent in the world then because I refuse to own a cellphone.

I don't think you will be a bad mom cell phones are just a helpful too while out. I have one but I also don't have a house phone and I am out all day long.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea :3:</b>" I don't talk to my mother. She's a terrible person, but every once in a while I get hope that she's change, ... [snip!] ... Really that's what constitutes being a careless mother apparently. And like I said once my baby girl is born I plan to get one."</blockquote>


What does she think they used to do when mobile phones weren't invemted!!! I think she's just nit picking. Just ignore it. Its prob only bothering you so much because of the hormones.

Screw her man. Having a cell phone or the lack of one does not define you as a parent. I didnt have one for 2 years... and I was a parent to a small child.

I think not having a cell phone would be great. maybe even make you a better mom in some respects, because you don't have to worry about being distracted by phone calls, texts, facebook, etc all the time. i wish I had the strength to throw mine away!

lol..what type of mother was she then when she left the house with you and never had a cell phone( i dught 18 +yr ago she had one..lol) and yet you still survived in her care, I'm sure your baby will survive just the same =)

I got rid of my cell phone, I do have one now but its text only, I never put enough money on it to make calls. Its so much better to be able to be out and not be on the phone.

I know a woman who spends more time on her phone then taking care of her kids.

not having a cellphone, doesnt mean you'll be a bad mom LMAO. it all depends on how you treat and care for your baby. your mom obv. is just bugging you. dont listen to her opinions, especially if they are negative and are stressing you out. you dont have time for her bullsmu*f, you have a baby to worry about, and prepare for   You'll be the best mommy you can be, trust me. you'll prove your mother wrong, and then she wont have anything to bitch and bug you about lol!

that will not make you a bad mom im sure ur gonna be a great mommy she is a bad mom for sayin something like that to her daughter i have 5 kids and just got a cell about a year ago so if not having a cell makes someone a bad mom then there is alot of us out there i dont have a house phone so i guess im a bad momma! good luck to u and ur little one...

SO screens all my calls and text from her so they don't upset so most of the time like 98% of the time none of her VM or text get through to me, she was mostly pissed I guess that I wouldn't take a phone from her which she would have both the number and full control. The woman can't even survive on her own my eldest sister pays all her bills except her phone. Including rent electric etc., And she wants to buy and pay for my phone? No thank you. I'd rather he start paying my sister back before that happens. Like I said, I mean without going into great detail she kind of sucked as a mother to the point where the only respect comes from that fact that she is my mother, and I didn't die as a child. (there were a few close calls lol)

I guess I'm just hormonal but that really tickled me a bit that I'm already a bad mom for lack of a cell phone. *sighs* My baby girl wont have any grandparents and that bugs me most. But being told that I'm a bad mom already I guess I need some reassurance. Thanks ladies.