re: what would you tell your kids? if you were going to jail

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:</b>" A 3 year old isn't going to understand jail. It's not going to matter what you tell him. Tell him mommy ... [snip!] ... was gone. But really...He was still young enough to where he didn't notice he wasn't around(most of the time) and for how long."</blockquote>


There's a huge difference between an uncle and mother :/ my lo wouldn't notice his uncle in jail either but he sure as hell would notice if I was gone for a year.

<blockquote><b>Quoting E.P. Mom:</b>" I've worked in several Jails and a prison, While it's hard for the kids, I never remember them being upset about visiting the parent. Leaving yes, but not during the visit. "</blockquote>




That is what I meant.,if you as a mother can prevent your child from been heartbroken. I would!

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" our jail will let parents have like 10 minutes with their kids in their little conference room if requested. ... [snip!] ... room if requested. Of course a gaurd has to be there and you can't be in there for anything that is absolutely horrible. "

That's nice. That could have changed recently, my mom has been out of jail and prison for years now...like 15 or so. She was only in jail for a short amount of time before going to prison though, so I was happy when we got to really visit with her. They even had someone there who took Polaroid pictures for us. She'd get to keep one copy, and we'd get to keep one copy...

Quoting ♥K:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:</b>" A 3 year old isn't going to understand ... [snip!] ... uncle and mother :/ my lo wouldn't notice his uncle in jail either but he sure as hell would notice if I was gone for a year."

I'm speaking in part by their sense of time.

But my nephew and my DH were inseparable. Together on a daily basis. Occasionally, he'd ask where he was, but most times....He didn't think of him. Obviously, an uncle is different than a mother. But....a 3 year old isn't going to notice as much as a 5 or 6 year old is going to.

Quoting E.P. Mom:" I've worked in several Jails and a prison, While it's hard for the kids, I never remember them being upset about visiting the parent. Leaving yes, but not during the visit.

THATS THE HARD PART IS LEAVING, THEY WOULD THINK WHY CANT MY MOMMY COME WITH ME

answering some questiosn

im being sentence for 3 years but can get out after a year...i had imported drugs back into canada where i live..


my lawyer said its possible i can do 6 months in jail and then 6 in half way house so i can only hope for the best..


i dont know if you can visit person to person in jail here and its a far travel from where i would be and where my son would be so i would see him much if he does come to visit

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shanti & Tay:</b>" THATS THE HARD PART IS LEAVING, THEY WOULD THINK WHY CANT MY MOMMY COME WITH ME"</blockquote>




This! If that was me I wouldnt want my child seen me in jail then when it time to leave be both in tears and watching my child not want to leave me. No no I rather not have my child go through that or see that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Shanti & Tay:</b>" answering some questiosn im being sentence for 3 years but can get out after a year...i had imported ... [snip!] ... jail here and its a far travel from where i would be and where my son would be so i would see him much if he does come to visit"</blockquote>




With good behavior it can be less than a year. See how things go and see how much time are they really going to give you and wait a while before you start bringing your son to visit you in jail.

Quoting WhY bOtHeR:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Shanti & Tay:</b>" THATS THE HARD PART IS LEAVING, THEY WOULD ... [snip!] ... be both in tears and watching my child not want to leave me. No no I rather not have my child go through that or see that."

im the same way

Quoting WhY bOtHeR:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Shanti & Tay:</b>" answering some questiosn im being sentence ... [snip!] ... see how much time are they really going to give you and wait a while before you start bringing your son to visit you in jail."

well so far crown atterny has said the lowest they will go is 3 years but the judge can change that, i hope

Hun, I would just be honest with him, and tell him the truth...even if he doesn't really understand it. At least that is what I would do if I was in your situation.

Either way, good luck hun!

Quoting Shanti & Tay:" answering some questiosn im being sentence for 3 years but can get out after a year...i had imported ... [snip!] ... jail here and its a far travel from where i would be and where my son would be so i would see him much if he does come to visit"

You're lucky that 3 years is the maximum sentence they gave you. I have heard of people getting a lot more than that for importing drugs.

Quoting Sock Lady:" You're lucky that 3 years is the maximum sentence they gave you. I have heard of people getting a lot more than that for importing drugs."

yes but it all depend on how much drugs there was!

thanks hun!

Quoting Shanti & Tay:" yes but it all depend on how much drugs there was! thanks hun!"

You're welcome hun.   I hope you end up serving less time so that you can be re-united with your son sooner.

I would be honest. Simple terms, but honest.

Also, before you leave make him a recording of you reading some books to him so he will have that while you are gone.