re: I Don't Know What To Do (Long)

Quoting Talena_caro:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Boots+3:</b>" He started this when I was just 5 and a half ... [snip!] ... I could give you a big hug. Please get yourself out the house,.it will only make things worse being there with reminders of him"

She's bringing the girls home in a couple hours, so we'll have to talk about it then. She knows something's up...I just don't know if she's guessed what.

I can't decide if I want to get out of here or not...While it's probably what would be best for me, I don't know if it's best for Rue and Zoe...Especially Rue...This is going to be hard enough on her...She's a total Daddy's girl. I am definitely going to think about taking her up on it, though.

I'm so sorry to hear this. What a heartless thing for him to do. Best wishes to you and your children.  

Hi Boots---I've read your posts and my heart goes out to you. I know your little one is due very soon. Just wondering how you are doing.... I'm praying for you.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Don't ever blame yourself or say you don't know where you went wrong. Love is a choice, not just a feeling. He chose to step out on you. Nothing you did could have changed that. My daughter's father did a lot of cheating as well as drugs while I was pregnant. I can tell you the beginning is difficult but you WILL get through it.
I'm sure right now he's just being a chicken smurf because he got caught. Chances are he'll come back eventually and want to fix things with you. If he really didn't want to be with you anymore, he would've left before cheating on you. There was a reason he stayed. This is not your fault at all. I'm here if you ever need someone to vent to.

I'm sorry hun. I don't really have any words of real comfort or advice. I wish I could give you a hug though.  

Quoting girlnextdoor:" Hi Boots---I've read your posts and my heart goes out to you. I know your little one is due very soon. Just wondering how you are doing.... I'm praying for you."

Hey everyone, thanks for all the messages...Figured I would take a minute to send out an update.

No real signs of labor yet. I'm ready for this little guy to come, but we've still got a few days before he's due, so we'll see when he decides to come.

He came home yesterday. Not for long...he just came to pack a suitcase. Unfortunately, both girls were here when he came by. Of course there were questions, especially from Rue. So I did have to tell them that Daddy had made some really bad choices, and that he didn't want to be married to Mama anymore. I know Zoe has no clue what I'm talking about, and I don't know that Rue does either.

I tried to talk to him about what we're supposed to do now, and all he had to say was that he wanted some space. That was it...Other than that, He really just ignored me the whole time. It's like, I felt I didn't even know him. I've never seen him the way he was yesterday. He wouldn't talk about the girls, or the baby...He just walked away.

I ended up telling my Mom, and they've opened up their place to us as well, if he all of a sudden decides he wants the house or something. I honestly don't know if I could even fight him for it right now. I feel like any fight I had in me just disappeared when he left. He just walked away, totally ignored me, and ignored Rue. Rue has no idea what's going on or why all of a sudden her Dad wants nothing to do with her.

Other than that, there's really not much to say. I don't know what else I can say. Somewhere I lost him, and I don't know if I can get him back. I don't even know if I want to get him back. Right now I just need to survive the next couple weeks...Other than that, my Dad's looking into a lawyer for me, if he decides to go through with this. I don't know if I even want to fight it, anymore. I can't see myself being in any sort of a relationship with him. We'll never have what we did...I'm ready to just let him go at this point.

~Boots

I am so sorry for you and the kids. I can't imagine how hard this is for you. Prayers and well wishes coming your way.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.This is such a vunerable time in your life where you needed support from him and he just turns on you. I can't even imagine 
I wish you and your children the best with whatever happens next and prayers for strength and comfort <3

Quoting Boots+3:" Hey everyone, thanks for all the messages...Figured I would take a minute to send out an update. No ... [snip!] ... in any sort of a relationship with him. We'll never have what we did...I'm ready to just let him go at this point. ~Boots"

Well you are being a wonderful mom and your daughters may not understand, but maybe when they are older you can talk to them about what happened. In the meantime you deciding you don't even want to be with him is a big decision. You have 3 kids by him and he wants nothing to do with them. You are doing something most women couldn't do. I really look up to you in this situation. I see your a strong woman who wants nothing but the best for her kids and i really look up to you.

Carrie Underwood-Two Black Cadillacs....that would be me in this situation. I am SO sorry you are going through this. What a POS