Pregnant with an abortion survivor

has anyone here had experience with a baby surviving a chemical abortion? I had a chemical abortion at 6 weeks 5 days, the pill. My ultrasound showed i am still pregnant, but instead of showing me as 10 weeks, i calculated at 9 weeks. I decided not to get the surgical abortion for another $350 (discounted price) and I am now 19 weeks with a normal ultrasound. It's the same ob that did the abortion so I am worried that they may be lying to me and SAY that I am not the first and there hasn't been any problems with their other patients....How do I know he isn't lying. Please let there be someone out there who has gone through this before. Right now I feel like I am playing a wait and see game. I would be devestated to give birth to my only daughter and have to deal with a birth defect they could not detect that I caused. It's giving me nightmares!

if you're 9 weeks how do you know its a girl?

Quoting bugs mommy☮:" if you're 9 weeks how do you know its a girl?"

she is now 19 weeks...

 

swear it said 9 


feel like an smurf

They can't lie to you, it's illegal. So if they are not seeing any issues, and saying that, than you should be fine. However there are times where things aren't detected. I hope your mind is put at ease some. Don't stress too much mama.

Quoting bugs mommy☮:"   swear it said 9  feel like an smurf"

she said 9 at first then said " ia m now 19 weeks" haha no biggie  

is there a way to go to another dr to get a 2nd opinion or even have another dr. read whatever lab / u/s / etc results you have so far?

Sorry for the confusion, i had an ultrasound at 10 weeks, but measured a week late. I am now 19 weeks. I am a student in the medical field so i know even doctors lie as i have seen first hand, and even if he truthfully isn't detecting a deformity i am still scared to death. I just wish i could find one person who could say oh yeah my abortion didn't work and kid is okay.

Quoting pregnantwithabortedgirl:" Sorry for the confusion, i had an ultrasound at 10 weeks, but measured a week late. I am now 19 weeks. ... [snip!] ... i am still scared to death. I just wish i could find one person who could say oh yeah my abortion didn't work and kid is okay."

  I'm sorry you're going through this. I'm sure there are women out there with the same story as you. But like another poster said, you can always go look for a second opinion. It sounds like you really need some reassurance.. I would definitely look into it.

My insurance won't cover another doctor visit, or ultrasound unless it's an emergency.

<blockquote><b>Quoting dream:</b>" is there a way to go to another dr to get a 2nd opinion or even have another dr. read whatever lab / u/s / etc results you have so far?"</blockquote>

Quoting pregnantwithabortedgirl:" Sorry for the confusion, i had an ultrasound at 10 weeks, but measured a week late. I am now 19 weeks. ... [snip!] ... i am still scared to death. I just wish i could find one person who could say oh yeah my abortion didn't work and kid is okay."

well there was a story of someone on here recently who had a failed abortion and the baby is fine now. lemme find the link for you. you'll have to read through the whole thread or skim for her posts to get the whole story though.
http://forum.baby-gaga.com/about2294408.html

A friend of mine went for a chemical**, she had no previous births so she had to have the misoprostol pessary to soften her cervix, but then she changed her mind.

Her daughter was born with the last knuckles missing off of each of her fingers on just one of her hands... it's not confirmed whether it's related to the misoprostol, but I have read that misoprostol can cause birth defects.

other than that, her daughter is absolutely fine, no developmental problems whatsoever, and she is stunningly beautiful! She seems to get along fine without her fingertips too (she still has both full thumbs)

I don't know how much they are able to reassure you with scans though?

Good luck I'll keep everything crossed for you that all is well! Just because it can happen, doesn't mean it necessarily will xx

**ETA sorry I meant surgical not chemical, so she did not have any mifepristone just the misoprostol

Quoting pixie b:" A friend of mine went for a chemical, she had no previous births so she had to have the misoprostol pessary ... [snip!] ... luck I'll keep everything crossed for you that all is well! Just because it can happen, doesn't mean it necessarily will xx"

Thanks, i have a copy of my 20 minute ultrasound so I just went back and checked. The sonographer had said her fist was balled up so she couldn't say all of the fingers were there. I don't think I can try abortion again over missing fingers anyway, but at least I would have time to get myself mentally prepared to deal with causing a defect.

I can't even talk to my husband about my fears since he is the one who demanded the abortion in the first place by getting violent and going crazy. I keep telling myself I wasn't forced, that this was my choice but I'm not convinced...

The vivid nightmares you get during pregnancy don't help my guilty feeling either. I keep dreaming I go through this whole thing and then she dies being born from an undetectable heart problem and I never even get to say sorry or goodbye. This morning I woke up with tears and felt like someone was sitting on my chest.
I just wish I could fast forward already and know exactly what is going to happen so i can stop worrying or if it's serious enough have it taken care of before I'm 22 weeks.

So sorry to hear this   hope you have a good support network aruond you, sounds like you have a lot on your shoulders   x x x

I don;t know if this will help but i been reading about this kind of things. I found this information on this website : http://en.allexperts.com/q/Abortion-1320/2012/5/abortion-pill-affects-baby.htm
Personally i don't know if its true or know but i like to think it is. I hope this helps you in some way.