Whats your take?

I am almost 38 weeks pregnant and it seems like my boyfriend has been going down hill. He goes out every single night until 4 in the morning. I have been getting zero emotional support from him. He started off telling me he was only going to smoke weeks once in a while, thats fine with me. Then once in a while turned into ince a week. Now its turned into him getting ripped off his ass every night and him selling weed. A week ago he said the was his last night he would go out because im getting close to labor, since then hes gone out every night. Its like he cant keep away. He goes out and buys 300$ worth the pit to "sell". Our son still needs a car seat and other last minute things.. Instead of buying those he goes out and buys 128$ hoodie and 100$ pair of shoes. He absolutely refuses to have sex with me, he wont cuddle with me, and he doesnt even play with my belly anymore. He will NOT touch me.  
This is my first child and you know i would like at least some support and him to be here with me at night. I have a feeling he is going to be high and drunk when i go into labor. We live 40 minutes from the hospital, am i suppose to let him drive me while high or drunk? The thing is i dont have a job, my mom is rather poor so ar cant help me until i get on my feet. I have no car because the tranny blew out of it. Jobs where i live just are not open. Its sad but i am very dependant on him financially. I just called him and he sent me to voice mail and told me is is to busy smoking and drinking. I told him we might have to end this until he gets over his drug and drinking problem. Was i wrong? Oh and tonight we went to texas road house on a date i guess and he seriously was making drug deals over texting during our dinner.  

Quoting whack a mole crazy:" I am almost 38 weeks pregnant and it seems like my boyfriend has been going down hill. He goes out every ... [snip!] ... tonight we went to texas road house on a date i guess and he seriously was making drug deals over texting during our dinner.  "

None of that is acceptable behavior for a parent. You should leave.

If he doesn't stop within a week you need to leave.

I agree with the other poster, that is insane. I can't believe you're still there. If it was me, I would have been gone the minute I found out he was selling drugs. I'm sorry you're going through this.

<blockquote><b>Quoting B( o )( o )BS!:</b>" None of that is acceptable behavior for a parent. You should leave. "</blockquote>




I dont know if this matters but he has a very well paying job at a factory, pays his bills on time and makes it to work. That is the positive but he has thise issues i stated. People say you cant get addictied to pot but do tou think hes actually formed an addiction

Thank you guys. Ive been known to have a very high tollerance when it comes to peoples bullsmurf, especially his.  
Honestly most of the reason i stay is because of the financial support.

If u have some where to go, I would go get transitional aid, (welfare foodstamps) county will go after him, and u will have some kind of money to get what u need, he needs to grow up, but u don't have to stand by and watch, ur child didn't deserve that either 

Can you not apply for assistance & leave him? He sounds very irresponsible

Quoting whack a mole crazy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting B( o )( o )BS!:</b>" None of that is acceptable behavior for ... [snip!] ... but he has thise issues i stated. People say you cant get addictied to pot but do tou think hes actually formed an addiction"

It doesn't matter if he is addicted to the drugs if he continues to sell them. If he gets arrested, or the police come to your home and find him selling drugs out of the place where your children are living, you will be in for a long and hellish ordeal with CPS. It's not worth it. You're better off living on welfare than taking that risk, in my opinion. Plus, he isn't respecting you if he is doing that on what is supposed to be "your time."

If you think he can snap out of it, then by all means try for that. But you've got to draw a line somewhere and make a tough decision if he is putting you, and more importantly your child, in compromising situations.

I am getting hurt by all of this but i am wanting to hang around to see if he snaps out of it when his son is born. He keeps saying he will stop when he is born. Uhg, this is haaard. I care about him so much that seeing him like yhis hurts my heart. If e keeps acting up when asher is born, i will leave. The asnwer is so obvious but the fact that i am very in love with him and care about him it makes it hard.

Quoting whack a mole crazy:" I am getting hurt by all of this but i am wanting to hang around to see if he snaps out of it when his ... [snip!] ... born, i will leave. The asnwer is so obvious but the fact that i am very in love with him and care about him it makes it hard."

At times like this you need to think about your son's well-being, more than how much you love and care for this man  . Good luck with everything. I hope he does snap out of it, you really never know.

Quoting whack a mole crazy:" I am almost 38 weeks pregnant and it seems like my boyfriend has been going down hill. He goes out every ... [snip!] ... tonight we went to texas road house on a date i guess and he seriously was making drug deals over texting during our dinner.  "

Im sorry hun. He sounds a little like my own poop stain of a bf. He wants to start selling and hes always out smoking with his friends. During the end of my pregnancy he was really bad also. Just seemed like he couldnt care less.
I know everyones going to tell you this but you really have to give him an ultimatum. Its scary because you'll think he wont chose you and the baby and I know you need him. But if you really want him to step up and act like a father tell him he has to do so or you'll have to leave. Tell him you guys cant raise a baby around drugs and alcohol. Make sure you have somewhere else to go for a while though. Because at first he might get mad and act like he'd rather do drugs. But if he's really worth keeping, he'll make the right choice. It could just be his way of dealing with stress. If he doesnt make the choice before the babies born though, then he might never change.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" At times like this you need to think about your son's well-being, more than how much you love and care ... [snip!] ... how much you love and care for this man  . Good luck with everything. I hope he does snap out of it, you really never know."</blockquote>




Thank you. I am just scared i will not be able to support my son like i want. I lived very crappy its a trigger for me to think about it. He makes 18 and hour and gets 900 every week, he can give him the live i want for him.

Quoting whack a mole crazy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>" At times like this you need to think ... [snip!] ... its a trigger for me to think about it. He makes 18 and hour and gets 900 every week, he can give him the live i want for him."

At that rate he can definitely give your son a child support check if he doesn't stop.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Miss-Maia's Mommy:</b>" Im sorry hun. He sounds a little like my own poop stain of a bf. He wants to start selling and hes ... [snip!] ... just be his way of dealing with stress. If he doesnt make the choice before the babies born though, then he might never change."</blockquote>




I sent him a text and said he mighy have to end this until he gets over him drug ad drinking problem and that i care about him a smurf ton and he is yreating his body very badly.. He has has gained weight but looks bery thin and sick. He cant eat more then a few bites without getting sick and he says he feels sick all the time. Like i said, he bitched about feeling sick and refused to rest with me then went out to do more smoking and drinking and now refuses to come home. Bleeeh..