Sons father moving in with females

My sons father just started dating a girl a few weeks back. And now he's moving in with her and her friend. He's 23 and so smurfing irresponsible it kills me. Idk anything about these girls except they are fresh out of HIGHSCHOOL! Oh yeah I'm suppose to trust them around my son? I'm so smurfin upset! Can I smurfin do anything? How do I cope with this?

Do you have a custody order?

At least your kids will have playmates! Lol. I'm sorry, I couldn't help it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Do you have a custody order?"</blockquote>




Yes. I have full custody and need to give him reasonable parenting time.

Quoting Stl mama:" At least your kids will have playmates! Lol. I'm sorry, I couldn't help it."

  .........lol.


If he moves into that type of environment if you don't already have a custody arrangement I would be looking into getting one. I would be nervous as hell for my son to be in that environment, when I have no clue who these people are.

Quoting NkW:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Do you have a custody order?"</blockquote> Yes. I have full custody and need to give him reasonable parenting time."

Do you guys get along decently?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Raωkeℓ:</b>"   .........lol. If he moves into that type of environment if you don't already have a custody ... [snip!] ... into getting one. I would be nervous as hell for my son to be in that environment, when I have no clue who these people are."</blockquote>




Do I need to get the new custody set before he moves in? Bc I think he's moving in this week! :/ So I'm so smurfed!

Quoting NkW:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Do you have a custody order?"</blockquote> Yes. I have full custody and need to give him reasonable parenting time."

Unless your custody order states that he isn't allowed to have the children around potential mates, there isn't anything you can do about it.

You also can't stop the visitation....you will get in trouble.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Do you guys get along decently?"</blockquote>




Yes. We do stuff with our son and him and my husband talk. Only thing is, it's his way or no way!

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Unless your custody order states that he isn't allowed to have the children around potential mates, ... [snip!] ... potential mates, there isn't anything you can do about it. You also can't stop the visitation....you will get in trouble."</blockquote>




But I could make visitations at my house? Right? Hmm

Quoting NkW:" <blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Unless your custody order states that ... [snip!] ... stop the visitation....you will get in trouble."</blockquote> But I could make visitations at my house? Right? Hmm"

You can try that if you want, but if it means that his visitation will be limited, he can take it back to court.

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" You can try that if you want, but if it means that his visitation will be limited, he can take it back to court."</blockquote>




His dumb ass is so concerned with partying again he prob won't even care. Why the smurf can't he at least wait 6 months? I'm so annoyed.

Quoting NkW:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" Do you guys get along decently?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... Yes. We do stuff with our son and him and my husband talk. Only thing is, it's his way or no way!"

If you get along, as if the first time your son goes over there you go with. Just let him know that you want to know the people that are going to be a decently big part of your child's life now. I'm sure he won't mind that you'd like to meet them and get to know them.

Quoting speaktruth2powr:" Unless your custody order states that he isn't allowed to have the children around potential mates, ... [snip!] ... potential mates, there isn't anything you can do about it. You also can't stop the visitation....you will get in trouble."

This. You need to set it up asap. It's expensive, though. Our lawyer who put together our parenting plan was like 150 an hour. So if you guys don't agree on things it could get pricey.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" If you get along, as if the first time your son goes over there you go with. Just let him know that ... [snip!] ... to be a decently big part of your child's life now. I'm sure he won't mind that you'd like to meet them and get to know them."</blockquote>




I've met his gf. I actually don't have much of a problem with him living with her. It's just this other random female. And that he's doing this so fast. I even asked him to wait 6 months but nope. My son doesn't need random people in and out of his life.