was i worng?

to keep this short...my EX keeps screaming at me every time he comes over to drop off our daughter. i try to be nice and say things to keep up his spirts but he just want to be with me again. what happened was i was with him 7 years he left the house when out daughter was 2 (but still said we were together just not living together) to basically party drink get other pussies and be single again. once he was done getting laid and smurf i found out left then came back and forgave him. i tried for us to be togtehr but he started again going out and lying and going to strip clubs ect ect. thing is he had a friend his frined would come over and chill with us. he helped me with math and other classes in college. months went by he told me that he count be friends with my now Ex his friend at the time because he said he did int like the way he was. he told me that every time they were alone that he would start talking about other girls and looking at other woman. he said i see the way u treat him and how good u are to him and i just don't understand why he treats u the way he does. i had made plans to go for a weekend to visit my mom and he was planning already the day i was gonna leave to go out and calls some girls and go to the strip club. he was just waiting for me to leave. so he told me all this i left him the day i did he got physical with me i called the police and he went to jail. i am now with the guy who told me everything "juan" he is absolutely amazing but now my EX keeps telling me how things will go wrong because juan is a trader. yet my EX did admit that everything juan told me was true. that yes he was planning to do things when i left and yes he did constantly talk about other woman. oh and that he was only with me because of our daughter. but was i wrong to fall in love with juan? will bad things will happen to me. i left him then later went with juan because i was falling for him

Personally, I don't think it was wrong. Your EX betrayed you and ruined whatever trust you had left.

You were good in calling the police.

Quoting Missie93:" Personally, I don't think it was wrong. Your EX betrayed you and ruined whatever trust you had left. You were good in calling the police."

i had very little trust left i gave him everything. and yes he got very physical i had never been so scared in my life

Do what makes you happy, hun. I dont think you are wrong.

Sounds like your ex is just trying to make you second guess this new relationship because he's jealous and wants to break you guys up so he can win you back. Obviously your ex doesn't respect you because he didn't treat you right when you were together and clearly he doesn't respect you now if he's trying to ruin your happiness for his own selfishness. Don't fall for it.

Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" Sounds like your ex is just trying to make you second guess this new relationship because he's jealous ... [snip!] ... and clearly he doesn't respect you now if he's trying to ruin your happiness for his own selfishness. Don't fall for it."

ugh thats exactly what i think...that he wants me to doubt my relationship with juan..all i want is to be happy   juan makes me so happy and he has treated me like i have never been treated before its been over a year now since all of that and i just want all this stress to end

Quoting Mami to a princess:" ugh thats exactly what i think...that he wants me to doubt my relationship with juan..all i want is ... [snip!] ... me like i have never been treated before its been over a year now since all of that and i just want all this stress to end"

Just don't talk to your ex unless it pertains to your LO. He has no right to know anything else that goes on in your life.

Honestly just tell the ex to piss off! So he is mad because he wanted to cheat on you, physically assault you and whatever else and his friend decided to step up like a real man and treat you properly? Oh well that is what they call karma. "Juan" is no traitor, he sounds like a good and honest man and this ex is jealous scum! He is screaming at you when he is dropping off DD? So this screaming is in front of her and he also has a history of domestic violence, oh yes I'd be concerned about that! I would very firmly inform him if he doesn't keep his temper in check from now on you will arrange for someone to be present every single time you have to see him as you are concerned about your safety. He sounds like a live wire if you ask me!!

Quoting xTJ:" Honestly just tell the ex to piss off! So he is mad because he wanted to cheat on you, physically assault ... [snip!] ... every single time you have to see him as you are concerned about your safety. He sounds like a live wire if you ask me!!"

i hate that he yells in front of her...i tried to keep the peace but he wont budge its either come back to me or you will be miserable your whole life i forgave him time and time again. but the hitting and the fighting cheating and lying lonely night.im over it

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mami to a princess:</b>" i hate that he yells in front of her...i tried to keep the peace but he wont budge its either come back ... [snip!] ... your whole life i forgave him time and time again. but the hitting and the fighting cheating and lying lonely night.im over it"</blockquote>




Oh no you have to put your foot down here or he will continue to walk all over you like a door mat!! Seriously tell him very firmly the only contact you will have with him is about DD, the only discussion you will have with him is about DD, you are not interested and nor does he have any right to discuss anything else. Most importantly get the temper under check, screaming and causing a scene everytime he picks up/drops off DD is a major concern IMO, that needs to stop. Is there someone who can be the middle person to try and get the volatile behaviour under control? Perhaps your Mother or his? That way the 2 of you don't have to see or even speak to each other?