So pissed off. *vent*

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So little back story, my baby Aria was born at 35 weeks 6 days; her cousin E (my SO's sister's son) is 5 days younger-but he was born like 2 days before his due date. She was born longer and heavier than him, since birth they're pretty much always around the same weight but he's taller (his dad is like 6' 5")

Well just now SO's mom was sitting in the living room with us talking. She was like "yeah the other day I guess K (SO's sister) was at grandma and grandpa's house and she was saying 'E can do this, and that, and this, and Aria can't even do none of that!' Haha!" I was just sitting there thinking how is that so funny? They might be a few days apart but technically their due dates were 3 weeks and a few days apart. This only pisses me off so badly because his other sister is the one who told me it's almost guaranteed something is wrong with my baby "they just haven't found it yet-but it'll show up eventually"  

I'm just venting because I know I can't say anything more. We've already discussed it and everyone always says well yeah they're going to develop differently, nobody will compare them. But they do it anyway. It just upsets me for Aria's sake. Someday when she's old enough, if she overhears any of this smurf it could really affect her self esteem   Ugh.

ETA: post and run.

Screw them.  

Just ignore it. Everyone thinks their baby is the smartest, and the cutest. She's being a bitch for talking about your baby, but you know none if it is true.

Sorry to hear that. That kind of hurts my feeling for her. They shouldn't be comparing the two babies, everyone does things on thier own time. She is going to eventually pass him by

Ugh, that must be so frustrating- I'm sorry.   I would just start to ignore them.

I'm sorry to hear that  

But even if they were born at the same time as in both 2 days before their due date, but at the same time, your LO could still develop slower or faster. Every baby develops differently at a different rate so it's unfair to compare babies, regardless of age difference etc. It's just mean and unnecessary!

Did you remind her that your baby was born at 35 weeks and the other one was born on time?

Laugh at their ignorance. They don't know what they're talking about.

My boys both born full term have completely different developmental patterns. My baby is almost 6 months and only rolls around on the floor, doesn't sit up by himself. My oldest was starting to military crawl by this point and sitting up by himself.

My oldest was born 40w 5 days and my baby was on his due date at 40 weeks. So it just goes to show all babies develop differently. Especially when you had a baby born 4 weeks early!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Veronica_Lynn:</b>" Did you remind her that your baby was born at 35 weeks and the other one was born on time? Laugh at their ignorance. They don't know what they're talking about."</blockquote>


 
I've had a few family members and friends try and compare their babies to my son. They would make comments on how much bigger their child is compare to Judah and i'd politely tell them he used up all his energy fighting to live. It used to let it get to me. Now, when someone brings up differences I politely remind them that while their child was learning to crawl or sit up, mine was learning to breath, fighting to live and wasn't even supposed to have been born. I use the opportunity to educate them about preemies and what they go through.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Screw them.   "

I know  

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" Just ignore it. Everyone thinks their baby is the smartest, and the cutest. She's being a bitch for talking about your baby, but you know none if it is true. "

Thank you. I try it's just hard because I know what she can and can't do they just don't see her everyday to even judge. This makes me wanna be competitive back but I know no one, especially the babies, will benefit  

Quoting Jamie & Baby Aria (::" Thank you. I try it's just hard because I know what she can and can't do they just don't see her everyday ... [snip!] ... her everyday to even judge. This makes me wanna be competitive back but I know no one, especially the babies, will benefit  "

My SO's sister was like that, and her son is 4 months younger. Everything was a competition with her and it got old fast.
I just ignored it and eventually it did stop, but it's really annoying to listen to.

Quoting heather2470:" Sorry to hear that. That kind of hurts my feeling for her. They shouldn't be comparing the two babies, everyone does things on thier own time. She is going to eventually pass him by"

Thank you. It really hurts my feelings for her, and not only that I feel like she's somehow saying I'm a bad mother because my baby isn't as good as hers or something. Which I know is ridiculous. I hope someday if she does pass him by that everyone finally realizes it doesn't matter. Even adults are different, and we're full grown; they shouldn't be comparing new babies who are just learning everything about the world.

Quoting Raωkeℓ:" Ugh, that must be so frustrating- I'm sorry.   I would just start to ignore them."

It is, thank you. I want to but at the same time I want Aria to have a friend in her cousin. Its always fun to get the babies together and watch them interact especially now that they're older. But I can't ignore them if I hang out with them, it just really hurts my feelings and its hard for me to hide that.

Quoting NatashaHarper:" I'm sorry to hear that   But even if they were born at the same time as in both 2 days before their ... [snip!] ... at a different rate so it's unfair to compare babies, regardless of age difference etc. It's just mean and unnecessary!"

Thank you. I know, and everyone said that from the start. So it hurts even more that they'd go behind my back and be like this. I understand everyone is proud of their baby; but to brag isn't really necessary. Like in the family there's a 23 month old and 37 month old, who are on completely different developmental levels, the older boy has autism; they are ALWAYS compared.   I don't want this to continue forever.