re: So pissed off. *vent*

Quoting Jamie & Baby Aria (::" Thank you. I know, and everyone said that from the start. So it hurts even more that they'd go behind ... [snip!] ... different developmental levels, the older boy has autism; they are ALWAYS compared.   I don't want this to continue forever."

There's being proud of your baby then there's being a jerk and gloating unnecessarily. I have no issues with people who want to 'show off' their babies it's like 'yeah, fine, whatever, I don't care' but i have a real problem when people start comparing one to another, it really winds me up, especially if it's done behind someone's back such as in your case! It makes me feel so sorry for the innocent party involved and actually, who cares that one baby can do something before another?? They should be proud of your baby as well not being spiteful about it.
Ugh this is aggravating me just typing about it, I don't know how you feel! Sorry mama and I hope it gets better for you!
Just remember that your baby is amazing, screw what everyone has to say  

Quoting Veronica_Lynn:" Did you remind her that your baby was born at 35 weeks and the other one was born on time? Laugh at their ignorance. They don't know what they're talking about."

Doesn't matter I guess. The 37 month old I talked about it a previous comment, was 36w 3d, and they still seem to compare him even though on top of being early they know he's slower.

Quoting Love = Moco and Bubba:" My boys both born full term have completely different developmental patterns. My baby is almost 6 months ... [snip!] ... date at 40 weeks. So it just goes to show all babies develop differently. Especially when you had a baby born 4 weeks early! "

Wow, exactly. And apparently K's oldest could barely sit up by a year, because his legs were short or something? (SO's mom is the one who said this) So I would think she'd understand, like you said especially since my DD is a preemie.

Quoting Mrs Mia Wallace:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Veronica_Lynn:</b>" Did you remind her that your baby was born ... [snip!] .. live and wasn't even supposed to have been born. I use the opportunity to educate them about preemies and what they go through."

Oh wow, poor baby   I'm sorry that they do that. She doesn't appear to be a preemie, she's huge but I know that means nothing about her brain development.

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" My SO's sister was like that, and her son is 4 months younger. Everything was a competition with her ... [snip!] ... with her and it got old fast. I just ignored it and eventually it did stop, but it's really annoying to listen to. "

I know I need to try and ignore it. It's just hard when I just want to defend my daughter. But I know she'll develop at her own rate and that's perfectly fine. I just hope it stops before they can understand what everyone's saying.

Quoting NatashaHarper:" There's being proud of your baby then there's being a jerk and gloating unnecessarily. I have no issues ... [snip!] ... feel! Sorry mama and I hope it gets better for you! Just remember that your baby is amazing, screw what everyone has to say  "

I know, it upsets me too; its one thing when she tells me to my face-that can be irritating enough. But yeah I just feel bad for Aria and the fact that she may hear it when I'm not around makes me not want to let them babysit her. I shouldn't have to feel like that. She's their blood, my nephews aren't even blood and I don't try to compare anyone. I just love them for who they are.

Thank you  

Quoting Jamie & Baby Aria (::" I know, it upsets me too; its one thing when she tells me to my face-that can be irritating enough. ... [snip!] ... their blood, my nephews aren't even blood and I don't try to compare anyone. I just love them for who they are. Thank you  "

You're welcome  

if they wont listen when you confront them about thus, just try to ignore it, as hard as that may be!

i'm here to talk if you need someone  

I feel your frustration.When my daughter was a baby she had a cousin 4 months older then her and her Nanna who brought her up was always bragging about how clever she was compared to my daughter,it used to get me so mad,I was always saying "Shes 4 months older!!" anyway there both 13 years old now and my daughter is in top class for every lesson where her cousin is in middle/bottom for hers and now I say "Isnt it weird how clever she was compared to my daughter when they were younger and look at them now" ha! Just try not let it get to you because it's really not worth getting upset about,your babys a surviviour and thats more to be proud about then anything.x

Quoting Naomi Wheatley:" I feel your frustration.When my daughter was a baby she had a cousin 4 months older then her and her ... [snip!] ... you because it's really not worth getting upset about,your babys a surviviour and thats more to be proud about then anything.x"

i hope you don't actually laugh about how your kid is getting better grades than her cousin
in general, competing via your child seems really sad.

completely ignore it.. babies will progress at their own pace.. for instance, my son was born at 33wks.. he was sitting up at 6 1/2 months, pulling up, and crawling.. he was walking along things at 7 months.. my little sisters son was born at 33/34 weeks and he's 9 1/2 months old and just now learning to sit up, crawl, pull up, ect.

you need to explain to her that your kids are NOT competing and she needs to keep her mouth shut if she has nothing nice to say.. ya'll are adults, not children, there is no reason for her to be being a bitch about the situation...