re: How would you feel about this?

Like everyone said, it seems he was acting in anger and not thinking before he reacted to the kid. Smurf happens, but the could have been hurt worse and hopefully next time dad handles his temper more appropriately.

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" He should have given the kid a chance to share before putting him in time out. I don't think it's abuse or whatever, just smurffy impulsive, authoritarian, mean parenting"

The kid tried to hand the toy to his sister but the father said it was not fast enough for him!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" The kid tried to hand the toy to his sister but the father said it was not fast enough for him! "</blockquote>




Sounds like he's taking his aggression out on him

<blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" The kid tried to hand the toy to his sister but the father said it was not fast enough for him! "</blockquote>




That's smurfing stupid.
He needs to have a serious think about how his actions will affect his kids. They're going to be angry and aggressive too  

If there was company there at the time I would think it was just an accident.
When your kid misbehaves it is frustrating enough but then you have someone watching everything that is happening. He was probably just reacting too fast and didnt really mean to hurt him.

We got to also remember that men are much stronger then women & at time don't know their own strength.

Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" The kid tried to hand the toy to his ... [snip!] ... He needs to have a serious think about how his actions will affect his kids. They're going to be angry and aggressive too  "

I know! She said hes done pretty aggressive and impulsive things in the past toward their son. She said hes trying to be different, but once in a great while he gets like a blast from the past and will act as he was treated as a kid. It really worries her and she does not know what to do about it. They have had many convocations about it already. I think her fear is if he is changing enough or quick enough.

kinda sounds like the way your husband was acting towards your son about the oranges. are you sure this is about a friend??

Quoting ♥Taylor Maker:" kinda sounds like the way your husband was acting towards your son about the oranges. are you sure this is about a friend??"

Yes, this is about a friend.. My best friend actually.. Not sure whats the deal with black men being so aggressive toward their kids. Thankfully, my dh is getting the help he needs!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" This is behavior I witnessed while at a friend's house: The kid wouldnt share with his baby sister and ... [snip!] ... behavior normal among fathers when dealing with their sons? Not sure what to think and neither does the mother. "</blockquote>

I would be going mental if my hubby did that. That is not ok!! It is completely unnecessary overkill. That was done out of anger and frustration and is absolutely unacceptable.

If he comes from an abusive home it is what he has learnt but if it carries on that is what hes going to teach his son.

I would be livid. It sounds like he might need some parenting or anger management courses. From what you describe it doesn't seem the child needed any intervention. He did, after all, do what he was asked to do. I am not sure what that whole drama taught him except that his father is impossible to please & it will result in learned helplessness which often means the child will quit trying to comply at all since compliance doesn't get a good reaction. So he may as well do what he wants if he'll get punished either way.