Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" So on top of being indirectly violent towards ... [snip!] ... I'd be cut off.financially and my credit.would be destroyed. I've been looking for jobs but I have.no sitter.or.qualifications"
So him abusing you with THINGS (a door) would be what convinces you that he's not the wonderful man everyone says he is....but him being verbally abusive, being violent in general, drinking, choosing his friends and alcohol over his family, and being emotionally abusive is not enough?
You do not want your children to grow up feeling like you do. Afraid of the man they live with, emotionally broken down, ignored for friends and alcohol. While being even more helpless because they REALLY cannot leave.
Do you want them to grow up thinking that this is an okay way to be treated?
What would you tell your daughter if she called you because he husband was treating her the way yours treats you? Would you tell her to stay and hope it gets better, or wait for him to hit her before she leaves?
You have family. You're in an abusive relationship. I guarantee they would help you leave, so you can get on your feet again, without him.