Am I wrong here?

My SO plays video games from the time he comes home to when he goes to bed. I am always telling him to get off so we can spend some time together and he says "I can talk perfectly fine while playing games" So my question is, should that be enough for me or do you think he needs to put the video game down and give me his full attention? Like, I want to cuddle and watch tv or just chat face to face and I don't see how that's possible if he is constantly doing something. So tired of this.  

No you're not wrong. He needs to grow up and realize how relationships work.

Is it like an everyday kind of thing and it's causing major issues in your relationship? If so I'd let him know that or hide the game system.

Quoting Syndal:" My SO plays video games from the time he comes home to when he goes to bed. I am always telling him to ... [snip!] ... tv or just chat face to face and I don't see how that's possible if he is constantly doing something. So tired of this.  "

I don't think you are in the wrong. Video games are supposed to be recreational, not take up your whole life outside of work. He should have set times he plays where you won't bother him but then he is off after that. That's what DH and I did.

Quoting Princess.:" Is it like an everyday kind of thing and it's causing major issues in your relationship? If so I'd let him know that or hide the game system."

Hide it? Bust that system with a bat.

He should spend time with you without playing games. That is why I wouldn't let dh have a game system for years.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Regina George:</b>" Hide it? Bust that system with a bat. "</blockquote>




Eh, I wouldn't do that. I sometimes enjoy a game or two.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Regina George:</b>" Hide it? Bust that system with a bat. "</blockquote>



Lol I have a friend who took her DH's PS3 and smashed it to pieces in their drive way. That's what I would.do if my DH had a video game obsession.

NO, you are not wrong.

When you two met he did not woo you by sitting in front of a TV telling you that, that should be enough. Therefore him saying that should suffice for you now is a cop-out and he's lazy.

Quality time does not involve being obsessed with a video game like a teenager.

He is treating you as if you don't matter and like you aren't there. I wonder how he would feel if you actually WEREN'T there anymore, and perhaps were with someone who treated you like YOU DO MATTER.

You would not be attracted to someone like that, so don't settle for it now. Know your worth and raise your standards and expect the respect and effort that you give. Relationships are about being a team and being with your best friend.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Regina George:</b>" Hide it? Bust that system with a bat. "</blockquote>



That would just make things worse.

OP sit him down and have a talk about what you need and want out of the relationship.

Yes it's an everyday thing. I have told him before to stop and suggested that the days he works he can play as much as he wants because he needs time for himself but on his days off 2 hours max. That's not happening. It's a DS and I honestly just tried to pull it apart and hide it but he found it. I just want to cry. I feel like he doesn't give a rats ass. He even knows I cry about this and he never seems to care.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Syndal:</b>" Yes it's an everyday thing. I have told him before to stop and suggested that the days he works he can ... [snip!] ... it. I just want to cry. I feel like he doesn't give a rats ass. He even knows I cry about this and he never seems to care."</blockquote>



He must not take the relationship all that seriously if he continues to do the things that bother you.

Thank you all so much. I'm crying so hard right now :[

Quoting Syndal:" Yes it's an everyday thing. I have told him before to stop and suggested that the days he works he can ... [snip!] ... it. I just want to cry. I feel like he doesn't give a rats ass. He even knows I cry about this and he never seems to care."

So why do you keep punishing yourself by being with someone who shows no interest in being around you at all? You have tried communicating, you have tried getting rid of the problem (which probably wan't the best approach, but whatever), and you have cried because of how it's leaving you feeling. Why do you continue to give him the opportunity to make you feel worthless?

Quoting Syndal:" Thank you all so much. I'm crying so hard right now :["

I hope you're crying because you are realizing that you're worth more than this.

Babies do not make men grow up, they are just the same men....with a child.

Can you imagine being in that house with him paying call of duty constantly after you've been taking care of your's and his child all day?