re: ***

Quoting Alissa McKeighan:" <blockquote><b>Quoting norah's.momma✿:</b>" He agreed to have a baby, the decision ... [snip!] ... to deal with the consequences of his decision... I don't think she assumed that your child together wasn't properly planned."

I know what she meant. I'm just saying he chose to have a baby and now he needs to grow up like I did.

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" He agreed to have a baby, the decision was 100% mutual and DD was planned.   That's why I get so frustrated with him."

At the same time, he's 22. That's INCREDIBLY young. And judging by his immature comments and hobbies, he sounds like he has some growing up to do. And it's probably best for everyone that you both wait to have more children AFTER he grows up.

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" She's on a schedule right now. I just meant it's our fault she still can't sleep all night because it took us so long to get her on one. I feel like a piece of smurf."

Do you feel like a piece of smurf because you've legitimately done something wrong?

Or do you feel like a piece of smurf because you've done everything you can in your power including tending to your daughter in the middle of the night, and your husband's response has simply been to complain, not appreciate your work, not work as a team with you, and spend his free time playing video games with his friends?

This could be completely off, but judging by your comments and reactions and how hurt you seem, does he make a habit of putting you down, not appreciating you, and making you seem less than wonderful on a regular basis?

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" I know what she meant. I'm just saying he chose to have a baby and now he needs to grow up like I did."

He absolutely does, but you can't wish him or talk him into doing it. People grow up in their own time. Babies do not make people mature. They're the same people, they just happen to have a child.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Do you feel like a piece of smurf because you've legitimately done something wrong? Or do you feel ... [snip!] ... does he make a habit of putting you down, not appreciating you, and making you seem less than wonderful on a regular basis?"

Yes.. he does put me down a lot. He says I don't do smurf around the house and all I do is "lay around." I don't see how that would even be possible considering I'm the only one that does anything.

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" Yes.. he does put me down a lot. He says I don't do smurf around the house and all I do is "lay around." I don't see how that would even be possible considering I'm the only one that does anything."

Honestly, it sounds like your relationship is really stressful due to his immaturity and possible emotional abuse.

It kind of feels like you're upset about this because you feel like having his child is the only bond you two have had for a while, and him saying that made you feel like he deosn't see her as your bond, and that he doesn't want to create another.

Do you feel like this is how you want to spend the rest of your life?

Quoting babymama0324:" I hate call of duty because it becomes an obsessu"

Not always. My SO has COD and only plays maybe twice a week on his days off at night. When DS wakes up in night we both get up with him and tag team his nappy change, cuddles, and changing the bed if needed ... we do this and SO starts work at 6am and I start at 12:30.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Honestly, it sounds like your relationship is really stressful due to his immaturity and possible emotional ... [snip!] ... your bond, and that he doesn't want to create another. Do you feel like this is how you want to spend the rest of your life?"

I told him he was emotionally abuse and he just laughed at me. I don't want to spend the rest of my life like this, but I just keep hoping he'll change. I know how stupid that sounds. I just feel worthless right now, like I can never do enough in one day.

Quoting norah's.momma✿:" I told him he was emotionally abuse and he just laughed at me. I don't want to spend the rest of my ... [snip!] ... hoping he'll change. I know how stupid that sounds. I just feel worthless right now, like I can never do enough in one day."

What would you tell your daughter if she called you crying, and told you about everything her husband was doing and that she felt worthless because of it? Would you tell her to wait around and hope he changes?