Moms with toddlers and a baby

I just had my son 5 days ago and he just came home today from the NICU my daughter who just turned 2 is a total mess I can't manage her she's gone on time out countless times today and I'm sure this is a jealousy issue! Does anyone have advice on what I should do to make her understand and accept her baby brother?

Have her help out, include her in caring for him. We're getting My son a gift from the baby.

I want to watch this... I'm about to have my second. DS is 2 and has been acting out a lot lately. I'm worried about how he will react when she actually comea home.

My daughter was about 3 when my baby was born and she couldn't be a prouder older sister. My little one is jealous when I hold other babies. It's her age, she's used to being spoiled! Try to show her as much attention as you possibly can. Parenthood is NOT like those Johnson and Johnson commercials!

Give her lots of attention when your new baby is sleeping. It helped DD adjust. Now, she loves playing with her sister and she knows when she goes to sleep, she'll have me all to herself.

have you tried asking her to helpout as much as possible. making her role of big sister very ''important''. My 22mo old gets her baby(7wk old) sister her paci, diapers,wipes, etc...helps me give her baths and lotions her up(i let her lotion the babys feet and legs)
of course she wants to climb in the baby cradle and swing and use the bouncyseat too (for attention). I let her know she can have a turn when the baby is finished or she can try the bouncy seat while baby is in the cradle....i do not tell her those things are the babys now, just that she needs to share them w/her baby sister

Thank you! you all have great advice!! I definitely include her in everything I can but she doesn't want to! She is just defiant in everything. I give her all the attention I possibly can its exhausting she wants to be held 24/7 now. I'm truly trying my best to have her happy its making me upset that my lil girl is upset!

<blockquote><b>Quoting O.G.'s Mommy:</b>" I want to watch this... I'm about to have my second. DS is 2 and has been acting out a lot lately. I'm worried about how he will react when she actually comea home."</blockquote>

My daughter was the exact same way the bigger my belly got the more she would act out she would hit my belly and just act crazy! So I wish you the best hopefully he doesn't act how my daughter is now!

Quoting Bella & Blakes mommy:" Thank you! you all have great advice!! I definitely include her in everything I can but she doesn't want ... [snip!] ... she wants to be held 24/7 now. I'm truly trying my best to have her happy its making me upset that my lil girl is upset!"

aside from including my toddler as much as possible since baby was born , i also schedule lots of ''playdates''....i invite over my friends w/small children as often as possible so my toddler has a playmate and can ''show off'' her baby sister. I also invite my friends over to hold the baby for awhile so that i can play w/my toddler one on one.

Let her help out as much as possible. Changing diapers, bath time, feeding if you bottle feed. And also make sure to set time out for her! Make sure she still has time with Mommy and that she is still important too.

DD was 2.5 when I had DS. Making sure she was involved as much as possible seemed to help. I don't have much problems with her being jealous though she does act out occasionally. But that's to be expected IMO as she is only 3 now.

Quoting Bella & Blakes mommy:" Thank you! you all have great advice!! I definitely include her in everything I can but she doesn't want ... [snip!] ... she wants to be held 24/7 now. I'm truly trying my best to have her happy its making me upset that my lil girl is upset!"

She will come around. It's something new to her and she has to adjust. Just keep showing her that you love her. Good luck  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bella & Blakes mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting O.G.'s Mommy:</b>" I want to watch this... I'm about to have ... [snip!] ... act out she would hit my belly and just act crazy! So I wish you the best hopefully he doesn't act how my daughter is now!"</blockquote>




Yeah, that's how he's been acting   I know I'm in for some issues. I'm gonna try some of these ideas though. You just never know.

My oldest was also 2.5 when I had my youngest. I never really have a problem with him acting out he just point blank doesnt like his little brother very much. He will help out when asked but he wont really play with him or anything. He also doesnt like that brother can crawl now so he builds forts to keep brother out of his toys lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting B&Js Mommy:</b>" My oldest was also 2.5 when I had my youngest. I never really have a problem with him acting out he just ... [snip!] ... with him or anything. He also doesnt like that brother can crawl now so he builds forts to keep brother out of his toys lol."</blockquote>




Lol this made me laugh! So cute!