Need Some Serious Advice.

I have a 21 month old son.. If he sees something he wants and I tell him no, he will stand there and SCREAM and cry at the top of his lungs. I've actually had the neighbors come downstairs to ask if he is okay. Anytime we go to a store or out and about and he doesn't feel like being there or doesn't get what he wants, we go through this. I don't put him down for naps anymore because he screams bloody murder before his nap and promptly upon waking up. The word STOP and NO do not seem to register to him.. I don't know what else to do. The screaming has become RIDICULOUS, it's a nightmare taking him anywhere. Any suggestions? What is a suitable punishment for him at this age?

He's extremely stubborn and he will get beat red and veins will pop in his neck because he screams with such force. My mother tried to put tape on his mouth when he was screaming on Christmas. It upset me but I let her try because at this point, I just don't know what to do.

You need to explain that screaming like that scares you and makes you think he is hurt.. and then set up boundaries-- "if you scream instead of using your words you will get a time out" or whatever is appropriate to where you happen to be at the time

He'd acting out because he wants attention. With my daughter she was like thus but worse. They say for ever knew time you discipline him you have to praise him ten times. With my daughter everyone I saw her being good even if it was like aww your eating so good like a big girl I would give her some sticker. Everyone she was bad I put her in time out and I had to ignore her and not say one word to her not every child is the same but its worth a shot

Quoting coconut derrière .:" You need to explain that screaming like that scares you and makes you think he is hurt.. and then set ... [snip!] ... scream instead of using your words you will get a time out" or whatever is appropriate to where you happen to be at the time"

He doesn't talk a lot and I really don't think he is going to understand what I'm saying if I tell him that.. Gosh I wish I could upload a video or something of his day.. I know his doc says he is smarter than I give him credit for but I honestly don't think he is going to understand what I'm saying.. I've thought about time outs but I have NO idea how on earth to get a 21 month old to sit anywhere for a time out.. I'm so frustrated

<blockquote><b>Quoting (♥ my littles]™:</b>" He doesn't talk a lot and I really don't think he is going to understand what I'm saying if I tell him ... [snip!] ... about time outs but I have NO idea how on earth to get a 21 month old to sit anywhere for a time out.. I'm so frustrated"</blockquote>




Do you just not discipline him at all? That could be part of the problem.

Quoting diiamondchula:" He'd acting out because he wants attention. With my daughter she was like thus but worse. They say for ... [snip!] ... bad I put her in time out and I had to ignore her and not say one word to her not every child is the same but its worth a shot "

How do I keep him in time out? I'm seriously open to trying anything.. I have to admit that I have potched him on the mouth a few times and I hate it.. I don't want him to fear me or flinch when he sees my hands.. but I'm at my wit's end and I don't know what else to do!!!!!

Stop giving into him. Giving him attention is giving in. When he gets like this look him straight in the eye say you need to use your words to talk to mommy and not scream. Then place him in time out. If he gets out say nothing just pick him up and put him back it. This could take 4 minutes it could take 2 hours you have to be consistent no matter how exhausting it is. Once he has done his time (1 minute per year of age without screaming) Get down on his level explain why he was in time out give him and hug and kiss and remind him you love him. In public I just ignore it and let them scream. Yea i get the "control your child" looks but you just have to ignore them. If its gets to out of hand just leave. Yes I have left entire baskets of groceries in the asile before.

Quoting T + T = A S G ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting (♥ my littles]™:</b>" He doesn't talk a lot and I really ... [snip!] ... time out.. I'm so frustrated"</blockquote> Do you just not discipline him at all? That could be part of the problem."

Quite honestly, I was taught to spank. I don't want to be that kind of mom though.. I didn't have these issues with my daughter when she was this age. I started out with saying NO and then saying STOP and then I would tap his hands as he got older and now he has gotten SOOO much worse that I tap his butt or his lips. It's not hard and I've actually had people tell me that it's not hard enough to do anything but seriously, I don't want to be smacking or spanking. So I thought I'd come here and ask around for advice.. Please don't lay into me either about spanking  

<blockquote><b>Quoting (♥ my littles]™:</b>" He doesn't talk a lot and I really don't think he is going to understand what I'm saying if I tell him ... [snip!] ... about time outs but I have NO idea how on earth to get a 21 month old to sit anywhere for a time out.. I'm so frustrated"</blockquote>

You need to use language to help develop it. Speak to him straight and forward "When you scream like that it makes Mommy think that you are hurt and it scares me. You have a voice and are able to use your words to say what you need.l I can't understand screaming, you're a big boy now"
that's how I speak to my daughter

Quoting Jennybananna:" Stop giving into him. Giving him attention is giving in. When he gets like this look him straight in ... [snip!] ... have to ignore them. If its gets to out of hand just leave. Yes I have left entire baskets of groceries in the asile before. "

We have had to do that too. Where do I put him for time out? I've been told to try putting him in the playpen.. I'm willing to try but I know him and he is going to scream bloody murder. I'm literally afraid my neighbors will call the cops  

<blockquote><b>Quoting (♥ my littles]™:</b>" Quite honestly, I was taught to spank. I don't want to be that kind of mom though.. I didn't have these ... [snip!] ... smacking or spanking. So I thought I'd come here and ask around for advice.. Please don't lay into me either about spanking   "</blockquote>




Then you need a spot he goes to when he acts out and use it!

Quoting coconut derrière .:" <blockquote><b>Quoting (♥ my littles]™:</b>" He doesn't talk a lot and I really ... [snip!] ... to use your words to say what you need.l I can't understand screaming, you're a big boy now" that's how I speak to my daughter"

I am willing to try this.. what do you do if she doesn't respond? Or if she continues the behavior?

<blockquote><b>Quoting (♥ my littles]™:</b>" I am willing to try this.. what do you do if she doesn't respond? Or if she continues the behavior?"</blockquote>




I explain that if she keeps screaming she will have to sit on her bed or wherever you want. If you are in Public that means holding my hand or being in the cart to show her she doesn't run the show

Quoting (♥ my littles]™:" We have had to do that too. Where do I put him for time out? I've been told to try putting him in the ... [snip!] ... willing to try but I know him and he is going to scream bloody murder. I'm literally afraid my neighbors will call the cops  "

Pick a corner. Away from toys and tv. We have stairs so I make my daughter sit on the landing she has just graduate to standing in the corner because she enjoyed sitting. The biggest thing is consistency. Praise good behavior no matter how small. We just got a responsibility/chore chart for my daughter. For so many stickers she gets she then gets a reward. Anything from an extra tv show to a trip to the zoo. Certain ones like having no accidents for a week straight have a certain prize when completed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting (♥ my littles]™:</b>" I am willing to try this.. what do you do if she doesn't respond? Or if she continues the behavior?"</blockquote>




Don't be afraid to speak to him how you would in public because that's when he wants to see if you'll follow though. Maybe have a key phrase like I do.. "Do we need to excuse ourselves to the restroom"