Annoying children

DS, who will be 3 this month, has been in a whining mood lately. For example, today, I gave him a bath and he told me he was "all done" and asked for a towel. So drained the water and opened the towel for him, which is when he usually climbs out of the tub, wraps up in the towel, and runs around the house like a wild child. But, that didn't happen today. Instead he stood in the tub and repeated "No, Mama! No! No!". I finally convinced him to get out of the tub or maybe the towel looked more appealing once he began to shiver. As soon as I wrapped him in the towel he began to whine again "Mommy, Mommy, no! Mama, Mama, Mama! NOOOOO!" I playfully told him to get up so he could get dressed and we could watch Lightning McQueen. Still, "Mama! No!" with no avail so I turned off the light and walked out. I then heard him say "Oh, oh!" and he ran out to the living room, smiled, plopped down and began whining again so I sat down on the couch, turned on the tv, and ignored him. Which then my husband walked through the door and DS went in his room to play. About 10 minutes later DS came back out while DH and I were talking, and DS began screaming "Mama! Mama! Mommy!" and I bent down on his level, and calmly said "That is not the right way to get someone's attention. You're being rude and you're annoying me." DH began telling DS that you have to speak calmly and not yell to get someone's attention. DS then asked me for a hug, a kiss, and a high five, and went back to playing.

That is when my husband told me that he thinks I should not have told DS that he was annoying me, that he is only a child and that is what children do. Although I do not believe that DS will stop interrupting me or whining after today, I think we need to start somewhere. I don't see the harm in letting him know that it's rude to interrupt and annoying to repeat, it's not the polite way to speak to people. I could understand if I yelled or even calmly said "Leave me alone, you're annoying. Get away!", but that wasn't the case.

So, thoughts?

I tell my kids when they're being annoying. And they tell me when I'm annoying them.

My son does the same thing. And when the adults are talking and hes screaming at the top of his lungs he accuses us of interrupting him. And he will sit there and go mama, mama, mama, mama, mom mom mom until I finally say WHAT and he says something really funny. Fun times.

Quoting Dr. Temperance Brennan:" I tell my kids when they're being annoying. And they tell me when I'm annoying them."

I really don't see the harm in it. Yes, it's expected of children, but I'm not going to sit there and never let him know. I don't see how keeping quiet, just because he's a child, is going to help the situation any.

Quoting 624582:" I really don't see the harm in it. Yes, it's expected of children, but I'm not going to sit there and ... [snip!] ... sit there and never let him know. I don't see how keeping quiet, just because he's a child, is going to help the situation any."

It's not really all that disrespectful either. People are annoying at times and someone should be told when they are.

I tell Peyton, who is 3 btw, that she is driving me nuts all the time. Yesterday or the day before my husband came home and asked how she was today (as in behavior) and she told him "I'm driving mom nuts!" lol Oddly enough she wasn't!

Quoting Dr. Temperance Brennan:" It's not really all that disrespectful either. People are annoying at times and someone should be told when they are. "

That's why I was making this post, I was failing to see how I was being rude or disrespectful to DS. I felt like both DH and I covered all of the bases. You don't do that because it's rude and annoying, you do this when you want someone's attention.

And that is something else that I brought to DH's attention. If I am annoying him, DH, then he lets me know or vice versa. Why should it be any different for a child?

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" I tell Peyton, who is 3 btw, that she is driving me nuts all the time. Yesterday or the day before my ... [snip!] ... came home and asked how she was today (as in behavior) and she told him "I'm driving mom nuts!" lol Oddly enough she wasn't!"

Lol

Well at least I'm not alone. I've heard it isn't the 2s you need to be scared of, it's the 3s. I have a tendency to over look all of the times DS has driven me crazy after we have a good couple of weeks so I'm sure I'll say that the 3s are worse.

After this episode my husband asked me if I was sure that I wanted another, I told him that I still stand firm in having a second despite DS driving me nuts at times. lol

Quoting 624582:" Lol Well at least I'm not alone. I've heard it isn't the 2s you need to be scared of, it's the 3s. ... [snip!] ... was sure that I wanted another, I told him that I still stand firm in having a second despite DS driving me nuts at times. lol"

The 3's have by far been the worst but she seems to be getting better the closer to 4 we get. lol

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" The 3's have by far been the worst but she seems to be getting better the closer to 4 we get. lol"

Haha! Well that's good. You're giving me hope.  

Actually he really isn't horrible, it's just this whining and repeating stage he is going through right now. If we didn't have that everything would be smooth sailing, but isn't that how it always goes? lol

Quoting 624582:" Haha! Well that's good. You're giving me hope.   Actually he really isn't horrible, it's just ... [snip!] ... is going through right now. If we didn't have that everything would be smooth sailing, but isn't that how it always goes? lol"

The tantrums have been awful at times!

I absolutely tell my kids when they are being annoying & why it's annoying. I also tell them other people will not be as tolerant of that stuff as I am.

I call my kids terd birds all the time. it's satisfying to let them know

<blockquote><b>Quoting Barfy McVomitron:</b>" I call my kids terd birds all the time. it's satisfying to let them know"</blockquote>




Lol thought I was the only one who said that to my kid lol