Quoting TheNuge:" It s not like you were berating your child and telling him HE was a bad kid. You were giving him important ... [snip!] ... other kids that need to be told that. Having them hear it at home will help them respond appropriately outside of the home."
I guess that I am mainly shocked that DH felt that I was out of line. It's not that I expect him and I to agree on everything, but our parenting styles are different as well as our views in general. DH was raised to never question his elders, to respect his elders, and that spanking was normal thing. I feel that more often than not that words are more powerful than most spankings, and that children should be told what they are doing wrong and how to properly go about it, constructive criticism if you will. It's not that I am above spanking, I just do not solely rely on that like DH's parents did. Yes, DS is a child, but he will not be a child forever. He is at the age where he is testing limits and we need to nip it in the bud.