re: Annoying children

Quoting 624582:" DS, who will be 3 this month, has been in a whining mood lately. For example, today, I gave him a bath ... [snip!] ... me alone, you're annoying. Get away!"
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You should be honest about how you feel. It's good as your children will grow up doing the same. I always tell my children they are making me sad or happy by behaving that way it helps them understand.

Quoting Mel & a girl named Pey:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Barfy McVomitron:</b>" I call my kids terd birds all the time. ... [snip!] ... the time. it's satisfying to let them know"</blockquote> Lol thought I was the only one who said that to my kid lol"

some lady at Wal-Mart scolded me for calling them that....but they ARE terd birds. she obviously doesn't know my kids.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Barfy McVomitron:</b>" some lady at Wal-Mart scolded me for calling them that....but they ARE terd birds. she obviously doesn't know my kids."</blockquote>

I am sure your kids weren't all upset over it. People are so touchy!

It s not like you were berating your child and telling him HE was a bad kid. You were giving him important feedback about unacceptable behavior.
Of course i do it. Further, it prepares our kids for the real world in which they will be told that they are being annoying AND they will be with other kids that need to be told that. Having them hear it at home will help them respond appropriately outside of the home.

Quoting TheNuge:" It s not like you were berating your child and telling him HE was a bad kid. You were giving him important ... [snip!] ... other kids that need to be told that. Having them hear it at home will help them respond appropriately outside of the home."

I guess that I am mainly shocked that DH felt that I was out of line. It's not that I expect him and I to agree on everything, but our parenting styles are different as well as our views in general. DH was raised to never question his elders, to respect his elders, and that spanking was normal thing. I feel that more often than not that words are more powerful than most spankings, and that children should be told what they are doing wrong and how to properly go about it, constructive criticism if you will. It's not that I am above spanking, I just do not solely rely on that like DH's parents did. Yes, DS is a child, but he will not be a child forever. He is at the age where he is testing limits and we need to nip it in the bud.

I tell my kids when they're being annoying. I tell my husband when he's being annoying to. I expect my kids to do the same thing with me. I believe in honesty and being open about your feelings. When my kids are being irritating I usually say "Mommy loves you very much but you're annoying me right now."

<blockquote><b>Quoting 624582:</b>" I guess that I am mainly shocked that DH felt that I was out of line. It's not that I expect him and ... [snip!] ... is a child, but he will not be a child forever. He is at the age where he is testing limits and we need to nip it in the bud."</blockquote>




My husbands style is different from mine too. I don't think he would ever tell our daughter she was being annoying. He has mentioned something to me after a similar incident. It has made me more aware of how and when I give LO that "feedback."

BTW, my parents raised me to respect my elders and they were spaniels AND they also told me when I was being annoying.

It's a give and take with differing parenting styles. I think it's usually good as it keeps people thinking things thru.