re: ugh would this irritate you or am i overreacting

Quoting 624582:" Honestly, I think picking names are the least of your worries. If I was you, I would sit down with him and tell him what you're telling us. He shouldn't be screaming at you, period."

trust me I have, its like nothing I say amounts to anything. I guess it just sent me over the cliff because of everything building I don't wanna sound like I'm complaining I just for once someone to understand where I'm coming from, and he admits to blocking out the things I say but when I call him out on something he told me a couple of days ago he conveniently forgets and its all on me and then I look like the crazy ass hormonal bitch. Yes I admit I am hormonal, and I'm a sensitive person by nature but he knew I was sensitive before he proposed to me.

Quoting AngelWhispers:" trust me I have, its like nothing I say amounts to anything. I guess it just sent me over the cliff because ... [snip!] ... bitch. Yes I admit I am hormonal, and I'm a sensitive person by nature but he knew I was sensitive before he proposed to me."

Well that isn't fair to you. I don't know all of the ins and outs of your relationship, but it sounds like some things need to change. He can't turn a blind eye to your feelings or block out your issues.

Well I hope you two are able to work through your issues and he begins taking your feelings into consideration because if he doesn't that is only setting your relationship up for failure.

Quoting 624582:" Well that isn't fair to you. I don't know all of the ins and outs of your relationship, but it sounds ... [snip!] ... he begins taking your feelings into consideration because if he doesn't that is only setting your relationship up for failure."

Ty hun, I appreciate you being kind. We have been married for 6 yrs and i honestly think its because he don't have a job and we live with his grandma who try's to control everything. I just want us to agree on something for once. And sorry again for the crazy post lol my brain don't work well when other things are going on due to my add/adhd and not being on my meds since I'm pregnant my mind has been slipping lol.

Quoting AngelWhispers:" Ty hun, I appreciate you being kind. We have been married for 6 yrs and i honestly think its because ... [snip!] ... when other things are going on due to my add/adhd and not being on my meds since I'm pregnant my mind has been slipping lol."

It's okay. I wasn't trying to be rude, I just didn't get it. That's all.  

Living with family can certainly put a strain on your relationship. It did for mine, at least. DH was fresh out the Navy with tunnel vision to get back to Texas. He didn't even look for a job, I guess he was hoping that everything would just fall into place. So we moved in with his parents, which that was only supposed to be 3 months, it turned into 10 months. The fact that he didn't plan for anything, I wasn't in the position to work, he was working 60-70+ hours a week, we were still living with the in-laws, and it seemed we were getting no where caused a lot of issues for us. Unfortunately it took all of that bullsmurf to get us working together, but communication is why we made it through all of that. I mean, even though we talked and listened didn't make our problems go away, but it helped us see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Quoting 624582:" It's okay. I wasn't trying to be rude, I just didn't get it. That's all.   Living with family can ... [snip!] ... even though we talked and listened didn't make our problems go away, but it helped us see the light at the end of the tunnel."

Not at all hun, no worries I should have specified more. And it has put a strain on us big time we just need our own place, and frankly I'm fed up with the lack of communication it drives me up the wall. He seems to think that sitting around and not actively searching for a job at least a couple times a wk will get him somewhere. I believe he has given up with all the failed job interviews, but he cant do that with a family. He is too smart to sit around and do nothing with it.