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im pregnant. :(

posted 5th Jan

well, my boyfriend is AMAZING.
In all ways possible.
He's amazing to my daughter, she calls him daddy...
I love him with all my heart.
The other day I wasnt feeling right, and took a test... and it was positive.
I didnt want to believe it, so I took four.
Still no period.
I have decided to have an abortion. At first we wanted to keep the baby, but I was on the fence about it. Our two best friends are our roommates, and had a talk with me.
I can barley afford my daughter as it is, and another baby would just be nothing but struggles.
Since I am early enough, I can take the pill.
I dont know, I guess I just needed to vent and need someone to talk to. I feel HORRIBLE about it, to the point I dont want to do it. But this baby would not have the best life if I carried it to term and kept it. I just feel this is whats best. Luckily my close friends are very supportive of my choice, and those are the only people who know
This has got to be the hardest thing I have ever done in my life...

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I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Stafford, Virginia

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Monsters ⚓ Mom

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posted 5th Jan

-hugs- You know in your heart what the best choice for you and your family is. I know this choice isn't easy, but just remember you're doing what is best for you.

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I'm TTC since April '13, have 1 child & live in Illinois

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kthx.

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posted 5th Jan

Just remember, you are not a horrible person. You are a responsible, loving mother. You took the time to think about the welfare of your child, instead of yourself. Not everyone does that, and ends up raising a baby in a home where the parent cannot afford it. Stay strong! And use your friends for support, that's what they're there for<3

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I'm TTC since November '12, have 2 angel babies & live in Cleves, Ohio

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Ravey Candyass

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posted 5th Jan

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" Just remember, you are not a horrible person. You are a responsible, loving mother. You took the time ... [snip!] ... in a home where the parent cannot afford it. Stay strong! And use your friends for support, that's what they're there for<3"</blockquote>

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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Boston, Massachusetts

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katxo[25wks]

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posted 5th Jan

Quoting kthx.:" Just remember, you are not a horrible person. You are a responsible, loving mother. You took the time ... [snip!] ... in a home where the parent cannot afford it. Stay strong! And use your friends for support, that's what they're there for<3"

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I'm due August 29th (a girl), have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Florida

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Aliyah'sMommyBri :)

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posted 5th Jan

Im in tears reading this.

Thank you guys...
I have always been anti-abortion until I came to BG.
I learned it's ok for woman to have a choice... now the time has come for me to make my choice.
Its so hard.
And my boyfriend will subconsciously place is hand on my belly, and it hurts so bad, and seeing pregnant woman and newborns.
I know I am doing the right thing; it's still difficult.
I wish I could just have a miscarriage instead of going through this.

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I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Stafford, Virginia

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Amanda H :)

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posted 5th Jan

I had mine 4 years ago and it was really hard for a while. But having my son now makes me know I did the right thing. It's rough, but when you have other kids to think about it makes it easier. Your daughter is #1 right now. To give her the life you want her to have, you're making the right decision. Im glad you have support. Good luck Mama

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I have 1 child & live in Spanish Fork, Utah

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kthx.

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posted 5th Jan

Quoting AngelWhispers:" "

This is a protected forum. She didn't ask for adoption advice.

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I'm TTC since November '12, have 2 angel babies & live in Cleves, Ohio

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kthx.

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posted 5th Jan

Quoting Aliyah'sMommyBri :" Im in tears reading this. Thank you guys... I have always been anti-abortion until I came to BG. ... [snip!] ... I know I am doing the right thing; it's still difficult. I wish I could just have a miscarriage instead of going through this."

My heart is breaking for you. I'm so sorry you have to make this decision!

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I'm TTC since November '12, have 2 angel babies & live in Cleves, Ohio

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katxo[25wks]

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posted 5th Jan

Quoting kthx.:" This is a protected forum. She didn't ask for adoption advice."

right. She needs to go elsewhere

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I'm due August 29th (a girl), have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Florida

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Aliyah'sMommyBri :)

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posted 5th Jan

Quoting kthx.:" My heart is breaking for you. I'm so sorry you have to make this decision!"

It's so hard. I wish this never happened. We have always been SO careful about protection, and one night after a few drinks we made a mistake...

And after one mistake, I have to suffer. I feel like even though I have so much support they really dont know how horrible this is for me.

I love him, but I kind of resent him for not being careful although I know it takes two.

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I have 1 child & 1 angel baby & live in Stafford, Virginia

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Monsters ⚓ Mom

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posted 5th Jan

Quoting Aliyah'sMommyBri :" Im in tears reading this. Thank you guys... I have always been anti-abortion until I came to BG. ... [snip!] ... I know I am doing the right thing; it's still difficult. I wish I could just have a miscarriage instead of going through this."

I was like you before coming to this site. It is so wonderful to be able to get information you had no real access to before and being only clicks away from others who have been through the same thing.

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just know how much of an amazing mom you are to realize what you're capable of. You're doing what is in the best interest for your family instead of making you all struggle. You are doing the right thing.

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I'm TTC since April '13, have 1 child & live in Illinois

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Aliyah'sMommyBri :)

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posted 5th Jan

Quoting ℳonster's ℳom:" I was like you before coming to this site. It is so wonderful to be able to get information you had ... [snip!] ... You're doing what is in the best interest for your family instead of making you all struggle. You are doing the right thing."

My boyfirend works SO hard to provide for me and my daughter. My daughter is not even his. And he still works so hard. We live in a beautiful five bedroom home... and he's hardly ever here because he works so much.
My daughter has really bad separation anxiety and needs as much of my attention as I can give her.
I emotionally cant handle another child, I am bi-polar and want to go to school and make something of myself. I know if I have this baby I wont be able to do any of this and everyone around me will be affected.

I want to thank all of you for your support. Yall's kind words were exactly what I needed to hear.

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posted 5th Jan

so sorry you have to contemplate this difficult decision. Please make sure you look into all the resources available in your area b4 making a commitment to terminate. I have known so many women that terminated when they really didnt want to because they were uninformed about all the resources available to young mothers....(childcare, school aid, job placement programs,medical coverage, energy asistance,food suppliment, etc) are programs that qualify by income and family size. What you may not qualify for as a ''family'' of 3, you could possibly qualify as a family unit of 4. Talk it all over w/your SO and make a list of pros and cons (emotional, finacial, and relationship changes that will occur with either decision) Make sure you are 100% sure ,you still have some time .

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