re: im pregnant. :(

Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" so sorry you have to contemplate this difficult decision. Please make sure you look into all the resources ... [snip!] ... and relationship changes that will occur with either decision) Make sure you are 100% sure ,you still have some time ."

It looks like she has thought about everything. And has made the choice to abort.

Quoting kthx.:" Just remember, you are not a horrible person. You are a responsible, loving mother. You took the time ... [snip!] ... in a home where the parent cannot afford it. Stay strong! And use your friends for support, that's what they're there for<3"

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OP- You are doing this so the baby doesnt have to struggle as well as you and your living daughter. You are NOT a horrible person. IF you need someone to talk to, I am here to talk to at any time.

Idk if anyone said this, but if it could make you feel better that your doing the right thing, you can do a pros and cons list to ease your mind a bit.

The op is well aware of her options. She's not looking for alternatives, she's looking for support. Please respect that she has already made her decision.

I'm sorry you're going through this but it sounds like you're definitely making the best choice for your family. Message me if you need to talk! <3

The OP stated that she feels horrible about ''it' to the point were she doesnt want to do ''it''. Those were her words.....a choice isnt truely made till the procedure is over and done with. A life altering decision is in the balance and giving information in a loving ,understanding manner is what most responders are attempting to do. Seeing so many other posters in this forum dealing w/the emotion scars that can follow a termination that the OP wasnt totally sure of should prompt us to support not only their personal decision but also their personal doubts.

I am in the exact same situation.. I find it difficult to abort as well but it's the best option for my family right now. We would be struggling if I chose to keep it. I find myself wishing I would miscarry as well so I don't have to go through with an abortion... It sucks i just wish this would've happened a few years from now. The timing is horrible. I already have a 1 year old and she drains all of my energy as it is lol I could not do it with a newborn too. You can pm me if you feel the need to talk.

I'm so sorry you're going through this- everything you say I have felt too! not wanting to do it but having to because its the most responsible thing u can do for your existing children- breaking your heart though wishing you would miscarry! I remember all those thoughts all too well

what I can tell you "from the other side" I have to be honest it's hard, it's really not nice but the one thing u can do to keep yourself going is remembering why you made the decision and knowing you put your kids first- it helps. and continue to do that if you feel down- when you feel like it's getting too much and you have no strength left the thought of your kids needing their mom will give you that boost. my auntie had one 10 years ago and she said to me after my first one "smother your two in the love for three" that's how she got through hers and her 2 are now perfect, wonderful kids so well-turned out! (her eldest is 18 now)

having said all that I'm often hiding away crying and feeling like I don't deserve the 2 I've got because of my guilt over the abortions
and part of me resents my husband for getting me pregnant and putting me through 2 abortions
it's dark and can have an ugly side to it but we are getting marriage counselling, and I am getting help for my issues.

even in my worst darkest moments at least I can always tell myself I did what I thought was right by my kids at the time.

make sure you get a good support network around you, no matter what you decide. and if you eons go ahead with it accept any counselling you are offered afterwards, even if you initially feel like you don't need it xx

best of luck I'm here if you need to talk xxxx

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