She's so happy.

Blah blah blah

NO NO NO NO NO!!! You know that you shouldn't. I will support you in whatever decision you make though, but I don't want to see you get hurt  

Been there, done that with my BD.
He was in jail last winter and I SWORE I was done with him.
BUT he did change a lot while he was in jail, and when he got out we slowly worked on things and they did get better.. but only for a while.
Once I fell pregnant again , with baby #2.. things went right back down hill.
But once again, we are trying to pick up the pieces.

oh and he was in jail for child support, nothing major but he WAS paying just not full amounts of his support.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" NO NO NO NO NO!!! You know that you shouldn't. I will support you in whatever decision you make though, but I don't want to see you get hurt   "</blockquote>



Ugh, I know.

But, for some reason he seems different. Sometimes jail changes people...I haven't said yes yet though.

Quoting C A R M E L A:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" NO NO NO NO NO!!! You know that you shouldn't. ... [snip!] ... Ugh, I know. But, for some reason he seems different. Sometimes jail changes people...I haven't said yes yet though."

well I'm behind you, but make sure you tell him if he hurts you or little miss he won't have a chance to go back to jail!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Courtney [34 weeks]:</b>" Been there, done that with my BD. He was in jail last winter and I SWORE I was done with him. BUT he ... [snip!] ... up the pieces. oh and he was in jail for child support, nothing major but he WAS paying just not full amounts of his support."</blockquote>


Yea, from what I've seen, he's like a totally different person. He gave us money, while he was in there & he's never done that.

Idk, I'm just so confused

if you can make a list and the bad can't be outweighed by the positive...it's not a good idea....

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" well I'm behind you, but make sure you tell him if he hurts you or little miss he won't have a chance to go back to jail! "</blockquote>


Thank you mama

& oh..trust me, nothing like that is going to happen because he's going to be on probation for 5 years.

All of this, is a whole new different life for him & he's realizing now that he wants a better life.

Jail did him good

If you think he's changed, I don't see any harm as long as you WAIT and SEE. Jail does change some people, but you won't know right away.

HOLD UP.
I have been in this situation. When I was 8 months pregnant, SO went to jail because something caught up with him at a really, really bad time. He missed the first 2 months of our daughters life. Naturally, I was devastated and upset with him because I felt he put himself there.
Now, obviously, I don't know the dynamics of your relationship, only you do, but if you feel he's genuinely serious, why not? I mean, I KNOW jailbirds know how to sing, and some times it's "jail talking", but not always. Sometimes missing life opens their eyes. SO has been out and on house arrest and working his ass off and our relationship is amazing. I know it sounds crazy, but him going to jail saved our relationship. It opened his eyes to everything he took for granted. I'm not sure he would have ever "gotten it" if he hadn't gotten locked up.
I'd feel him out, and let him prove to you how serious he is about it. Sometimes things DO work out for the better.
Just some food for thought.

P.s. I took my daughter to see him, well, more for him to see her, and she was always so unbelievably happy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" If you think he's changed, I don't see any harm as long as you WAIT and SEE. Jail does change some people, but you won't know right away. "</blockquote>


Oh, I know. That's why I told him I'll let him know.

A lot of people, will think I'm stupid if I give him another chance but you can't help who, you love.
& Alyssa, is very much happy too. That's my main concern

<blockquote><b>Quoting K. P. Walsh:</b>" HOLD UP. I have been in this situation. When I was 8 months pregnant, SO went to jail because something ... [snip!] ... for thought. P.s. I took my daughter to see him, well, more for him to see her, and she was always so unbelievably happy. "</blockquote>


Yea, I completely understand. & yea, our relationship was bad but I really think he's changed. He talks to us in such a different tone of voice, calls us & even gave me money for her,... Money that he doesn't have for himself. I agree wit you, jail changes people.

Quoting C A R M E L A:" <blockquote><b>Quoting K. P. Walsh:</b>" HOLD UP. I have been in this situation. When ... [snip!] ... voice, calls us & even gave me money for her,... Money that he doesn't have for himself. I agree wit you, jail changes people."

Same exact with my SO.
He stopped talking the way he used to. He quit cursing, even. He just did a 180. I honestly didn't expect it to stick, but it did. He even ordered himself parenting books when he was in jail with the last bit of money he had.
It gets real and hits close to home when you're away for your child.
I know so many people say no, don't do it, which is pretty understandable, but it's not always a situation where history repeats itself.
We cant let fear and hesitation to trust hold us back from something that could potentially work out for the best.
Good luck to you AND him. Stay strong, mama.

<blockquote><b>Quoting K. P. Walsh:</b>" Same exact with my SO. He stopped talking the way he used to. He quit cursing, even. He just did a 180. ... [snip!] ... trust hold us back from something that could potentially work out for the best. Good luck to you AND him. Stay strong, mama. "</blockquote>

Your absolutely right & thank you.

I am just happy to get another chance with him, he's a totally diff person & I just want to live a happy & healthy life.

This time is different, I can feel it

Don't do it.

You don't want to hear everyone say, "I told you so." Besides, you deserve better.