Is this normal?

I'm married, I have one child and expecting my second.
I'm a stay at home mom with no access to my husbands money,
I have a credit card which he never sends money to, I don't have cash which i can hold for myself incase of emergency.
When we do groceries he pays, if we need something through out the week he will get it after work.
If my son needs something I always have to constantly ask him for money.
I actually had to use my moms money to buy winter clothes for him this year.
Also, I can not buy any wants for myself, and have no access to the family car or bus money to take my son out. Also my husband opposes me working, saying i'll be spending more on childcare.. which is true.

My husband makes about 2400 a month/ or so he tells me, our rent is 400, and we spend less then 400 on groceries a month, ultilty bills are paid except for electric, and we have one car with low monthly payments. We do not go outside to eat, and he doesnt give me money for wants. I don't even have access to the family car, and he gives me no cash to take the bus.

Is this normal? im very frustrated about this situation, and i've tried to talk to him about it but he tells me its normal

Hell no, that's not normal. He's a controlling smurf and you actually need to get as far away as possible as fast as possible.

No its not normal. He's controlling you big time.

UHMM no! That is messed up! you guys are married...that means what is his, is also yours and vice versa! If my husband acted like that I would be gone. I don't sit at home all day long and raise our kids,clean this house, wash these clothes, cook this food to be treated like that.

Smurf no thats not normal. Thats is super controlling and you need to run. Is he abusive (emotionally or physically?). I am a SAHM we have a joint account we pay the bills together and just today I took MY car to the mall with my oldest and did some shopping/exchanging xmas presents. We each have a monthly allowance (per our budget) and any purchase over $100 on either end is discussed.

Quoting MariyamBezhan:" I'm married, I have one child and expecting my second. I'm a stay at home mom with no access to my husbands ... [snip!] ... Is this normal? im very frustrated about this situation, and i've tried to talk to him about it but he tells me its normal "

no, totally not normal. it sounds like he don't trust you... and he sounds controlling, no judgment just from what i read... My husband gives me the card and car if I need something he even lets me have money if I need it... There's something not right with that... O.o

No that's nowhere near close to normal.

There's no way I'd be able to live like that. He sounds very controlling. Maybe there's a way you can work and try to see if there's a way to lower the cost of daycare.

wtf...no. that's smurfed. you should have your own access to money and transportation

Quoting MariyamBezhan:" I'm married, I have one child and expecting my second. I'm a stay at home mom with no access to my husbands ... [snip!] ... Is this normal? im very frustrated about this situation, and i've tried to talk to him about it but he tells me its normal "

uhhhh hell no thats not normal.

How long have you guys been married? has it always been like this?

No. You can buy your own child clothes, your mom shouldn't be having to buy your son clothes because your husband is a control freak. He is treating you like a child, yet expecting you to raise his. That is not how a team works.

Quoting Red Bottom:" No. You can buy your own child clothes, your mom shouldn't be having to buy your son clothes because ... [snip!] ... husband is a control freak. He is treating you like a child, yet expecting you to raise his. That is not how a team works. "

^I couldn't have said it any better....

No. You can buy your own child clothes, your mom shouldn't be having to buy your son clothes because your husband is a control freak. He is treating you like a child, yet expecting you to raise his. That is not how a team works.

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" Hell no, that's not normal. He's a controlling smurf and you actually need to get as far away as possible as fast as possible."</blockquote>




 

Yikes... I'm so sorry you have all that going on! I'm not even married to my man and we still go by the "what's mine is yours" motto. I'd probably be raising hell over it and if we couldn't resolve things, I'd be gone.