rude four yr old.

Ok... so usually my son has some sort of manners... but when he is with grandparents, any level of manners and respect go out the door. How about today, for example... my son decided to DEMAND I give him a snack cake. I kept telling him not until he asks the right way. How about my father decides to say "just give him one Amanda! You're making him beg!!!" What the actual hell?! My son said three or four times "give me a snack cake!!" Hah. What? How about nicely asking. He kept demanding and finally just simply said "please?" Now please what? How about my dad goes "Amanda, he said please! Don't make him bec!!" Then has the nerve to look at me and go "you do the same thing!!" Man how the hell did this get turned on me??? Smh... am I over reacting if I tell my parents to stop interfering with the mannerism I'm trying to teach MY child?? I personally don't think so but they do...

Do you/anyone demand things from him constantly? Do you say please & thank you every time you ask something of him?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sofia's Mummy♥:</b>" Do you/anyone demand things from him constantly? Do you say please & thank you every time you ask something of him?"</blockquote>




My husband and I do, but dad doesn't... (yet wants to be respected...)

I hate when people do that to me. Especially at the store when I tell Elias he cannot have candy or a juice and someone comes up and says "awww mom don't be so mean". That pisses me off to NO EXTENT.

That's how my kid is at my parents' house. They don't discipline him & get on my ass if I do  

My child wouldn't have had the opportunity to be reminded to act appropriately 3 or 4 times. It would have been- rude once- consequence- warning. Rude twice- no treat.

Tears after that? **oh well**. You don't get rewarded for bad behavior in my house, in front of grandparents or not.

Hence- sweet child and happy nearly all the time.

I personally would have told him to stay out of it in front of LO so that they both know who's boss. You're his mother and you have an obligation to teach him right from wrong and no one... not even a grandparent... has the right to interfere in that. And after I told him to stay out of it I would have looked LO dead in the eyes and told him he was getting nothing at all since he likes to act out in front of people. And sent his little but packing.

Quoting Pistol Amber:" I hate when people do that to me. Especially at the store when I tell Elias he cannot have candy or a juice and someone comes up and says "awww mom don't be so mean". That pisses me off to NO EXTENT."

I had this lady actually buy my son a candy because I kept saying no to him. The dentist told me to not let my son have hard candy because hes having problems with his teeth. I was pretty pissed but didn't know what to do.

My near 4 yr old gets like that w my in laws and when I say "that's not how we ask" mil says oh it's alright I knew she meant to ask nicer. Doh! When my kid stands there w this grown up look on her face and says " I want a snack and you're gonna give it to me Right NOW grandma!"... And I know I've taught my kid how to be polite, I'm gonna correct her and Mil can just suck it up bc I'm the parent and I sure am not letting my kid be a brat like that and get away with it and I sure as heck correct mil too  

Also- my fil will try and pull authority over me and I ignore him in those instances. It's my kid and it's for their well being.


Their well being comes before grandparent feel good-ness.

<blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" That's how my kid is at my parents' house. They don't discipline him & get on my ass if I do  "</blockquote>



Yep. And my dad criticizes everything I do... especially when it comes to raising my son. Its like I am a failure. And its funny bc they wonder why he acts so horrible with them... and get onto me bc he's acting up saying some bs ab me doing this or that when I'm not. Like letting him stay up all night. One time I have REALLY let him do that, and that was bc we had to pick up his daddy from work. Yet I get chewed if he don't want to go to bed. Smh

I would be furious.... I will discipline my toddler in front of my parents and grandparents and they let me do my thing(granted DS usually listens when I start counting to him since he doesn't like time-out). However with my MIL she gets all upset if I don't let DS do as he pleases. It is frustrating and I try to say no but she doesn't care and DH doesn't say anything because he likes to give into DS as well. So me trying to discipline him around MIL is a futile case since she will just give him what he wants when I'm not looking 

Quoting Angeleyes1372:" <blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" That's how my kid is at my parents' house. ... [snip!] ... let him do that, and that was bc we had to pick up his daddy from work. Yet I get chewed if he don't want to go to bed. Smh"

parents are so smurfing annoying sometimes. I just ignore mine. It's hard when my mom will stand there & argue w/ me in front of my son because then he feels like he can get away w/ smurf, but idgaf. My kid doesn't get treats or juice when he acts like that.

Quoting SierraZeke&Zach:" I had this lady actually buy my son a candy because I kept saying no to him. The dentist told me to ... [snip!] ... to not let my son have hard candy because hes having problems with his teeth. I was pretty pissed but didn't know what to do."

Elias and I were in my moms work and some guy opened a candy bar and gave it him. I was like "WTF" you do not know if he is allergic to anything. Then I made him buy the damn candy bar.

Quoting Pistol Amber:" I hate when people do that to me. Especially at the store when I tell Elias he cannot have candy or a juice and someone comes up and says "awww mom don't be so mean". That pisses me off to NO EXTENT."

I hate that too.

I had a guy buy my daughter candy I told her no about, like he thought I couldn't afford it. Bitch just watched me pay hundreds of dollars cash for food. I didn't want her to have it because it is sugary nasty crap.