re: rude four yr old.

Quoting ~Elliott's.Mommy~:" I saw all the mil/fil comments, I would be even more upset if it was my own parent  "

oh yeah me too. My friend and I had all four of our kids at the commissary the friday before Christmas. My brother was home from Annapolis and came with us. We were waiting for the butcher to finish cutting our steaks and My friends 4 year old and my 3 year old had each other in a head lock (they really are bffs but it was wayy past nap time) and I bopped them both on the head. My brother of all people said "You should not do that" REALLY... REALLY he has no kids. I did not even spank them it was a tap. I told him when he pushes a 10lb kid from his vagina he can have an opinion on how I raise mine and since that is physically impossible he just needs to shut his trap.

Quoting Pistol Amber:" oh yeah me too. My friend and I had all four of our kids at the commissary the friday before Christmas. ... [snip!] ... his vagina he can have an opinion on how I raise mine and since that is physically impossible he just needs to shut his trap."

Not taking sides, but seeing the way some people are, just barely tapping them on the head to get them to behave is grounds for DCS being called. (which is pretty stupid because you're not even hurting them... smh) But I agree with you. people these days have NO IDEA what the hell they are talking about. My friend and I went to the mall a couple weeks ago... I'm surprised noone said anything to me, because I'm not gonna lie... my son was misbehaving so bad I HAD to pop him on the butt. I guess they were like "Yeah, that was necessary..." but I mean, seriously. These days you just look at a kid funny... "OMG ABUSE!" o.o wtf? Just sayin, though.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Angeleyes1372:</b>" Not taking sides, but seeing the way some people are, just barely tapping them on the head to get them ... [snip!] ... was necessary..." but I mean, seriously. These days you just look at a kid funny... "OMG ABUSE!" o.o wtf? Just sayin, though. "</blockquote>




I know it is crazy. I am about to start my bachelors in social work. I am prepared to think I am the worse parent ever lol. I will give a good swat on the thigh when it is needed and that is only after the favorite toy is confiscated, treats are taken away, and he has gone through time outs already. My son is pushing my buttons though we have been home for three weeks on Christmas break so his schedule is all messed up and he is missing his friends. I have never prayed for Monday to come in my life. He had me so stressed out I was in tears yesterday.

Quoting Pistol Amber:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Angeleyes1372:</b>" Not taking sides, but seeing the way some ... [snip!] ... is missing his friends. I have never prayed for Monday to come in my life. He had me so stressed out I was in tears yesterday."

I know the feeling... Just try not to let him see that he gets to ya because he'll eat that right up and keep on at it. (or so my husband tells me about our son... heh) I know my limits, though. If I feel i'm about to cross that line between discipline and too far, I send him to his room and tell him to stay in there until I tell him he can come out... and sometimes step outside for a moment. Just because I have to control myself. Sad when you have to "ground" a four year old isn't it lol. My husband takes it a bit extreme on the timeouts and stuff, I usually just say "Okay, five minutes." and if he comes out, another minute is on. Everytime he acts up in timeout another minute. And when I get tired of that, send him to his room... or make him sit on the couch while I do what I want to do... bc that just makes him regret acting up. sometimes it's hard, yes. But just keep your head up, it's all worth it in the end when your child is better behaved than someone else's because THEY didn't discipline their child while you did... (some won't even do timeout because it's too "harsh" smh) and good l uck to you!