SO always too tired.

Lately everytime we go to bed and I ask SO to make love, hes always too tired. He wants to during the day and sometimes I give in. But its just harder foe me to relax and get into in during the day bc im so busy. At night im relaxed and just wanna make love to him. Its getting to the point where we're now arguing about it bc hes always saying no. Hes sleeping on the couch because of it. Hes only 23 years old. Only works 3 days a week and doesn't do much on his days off so wth? Idk whats going on with him but I feel like everyrhing with our relationship is going downhill little by little. I don't feel loved by him like I used to. Im not happy anymore. A few months ago he mentioned he thought he had a low testosterone problem. But I don't see why that would cause a difference between wanting to in the day and not at night. Im at a loss for what to do. Does anyone at all have any advice? I feel like I have nothing else I can do to make us better. Ive done all I can think of and I have no more fight left in me. I feel like just giving up sometimes and doing my own thing.

Quoting Noah && Libbys Mommy  :" Lately everytime we go to bed and I ask SO to make love, hes always too tired. He wants to during the ... [snip!] ... Ive done all I can think of and I have no more fight left in me. I feel like just giving up sometimes and doing my own thing."

My so wants it in the morning a lot. I hate it in the morning. I like to do at night but he's always too tired , too. and it seems like I'm always initiating sex and it makes me mad. Anymore I'm not even interested in sex either. So we end up having it like 4-8 times a month. That seems like a decent amount, but we are young.. 21 & 22 and used to have it at least every other day

Talk about it. Maturely. That's all you can do. I had this same problem with my husband, brought it up to him a few times, nothing changed. But, when I actually sat him down, got in depth and talked about my feelings towards the situation and where I think things are going, he changed completely.

My SO wants it all day everyday. And I can't do it right now cause our daughter is trying to come early. So he convinced me to do handies and bjs for a week straight unless I got sick or we were both too tired. I'm getting pisse off with him over it cause he knows that pleasing him turns me on in a huge way.

And to add, night time sex seems to just be so much more passionate... and just overall better.
In the morning its more like "wam, bam, thank you m'am" kinda sex and it makes me feel so unloved.  

Ive tries ralking to him about it. Telling him I don't wanna rush and just "smurf" basically. I wanna make love to him and rake my time. But hes nit interested in that? I told him its not fair that we only have sex when hes in the mood. If I want to and he doesnt then we don't do a thing. So then he tells me that he has sex with me all the time when hes not really interested. Umm gee thanks. That makes me feel so wanted and loved. Not. To be honest, I know this is so wrong. But it almost makes me want to go look for that love and affection that im missing and get it somewhere else. I would never do it. But that's all I want. How is that too much to ask for? Im starting to feel different about our relationship bc I feel unwanted, not good enough, unloved, and not important. I hate this. Sorry for the spelling, im on my phone.

Quoting Noah && Libbys Mommy  :" Ive tries ralking to him about it. Telling him I don't wanna rush and just "smurf" basically. I wanna ... [snip!] ... bc I feel unwanted, not good enough, unloved, and not important. I hate this. Sorry for the spelling, im on my phone."

OMG thats exactly how I feel.

What about lingerie ?
Have you tried that?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥crazybitch:</b>" OMG thats exactly how I feel. What about lingerie ? Have you tried that?"</blockquote>




Yeah. I buy diff stuff all the time to surprise him. That works for the time being, but then it's right back to normal.