im really loosing my patience now

but i feel like ive gone back to my new born baby days, my 3 year old will not stop crying, nothing i do or say soothes her, i ask her whats the matter and i either get a lot of gibberish or "i want my daddy, i'm poorly, i'm tired, i'm cold, i want my brother back", all of which i sort for her as best as possible, shes even waking in the night like a baby and randomly crying and wingeing, at one point i was getting up and giving her stuff then i thought i didnt want her getting used to it so the first time she does it i will check on her but then i leave her to it, shes also gone really fussy with her food and im struggling to get her to eat and she developed a stutter, not that that has anything to do with this it is just one of the things that has changed in her over the christmas holidays

I definitely wouldn't give in to what she wants at night. No toys, tv, playing, food...just water, then it's back to bed. I would ignore all the whineyness also. Send her to her room and let her cry in there if the crying is just for attention and not because she's sick.

Perhaps you have been pandering to her a bit too much. I know how hard it is to not try to bribe them to stop crying but you prob need to be a bit harsher. Maybe you should take her to the doctors first though just to make sure there is no medical reason she is doing it ie earache, virus. You don't say how long it's been going on. She may just be really tired because of all the excitememnt and the broken sleep.

Quoting T + H = My World:" but i feel like ive gone back to my new born baby days, my 3 year old will not stop crying, nothing i ... [snip!] ... not that that has anything to do with this it is just one of the things that has changed in her over the christmas holidays "

What esle has changed at home for her?
Is her brother and/or dad not around now?

<blockquote><b>Quoting TheNuge:</b>" What esle has changed at home for her? Is her brother and/or dad not around now?"</blockquote>




This is what I was going to ask as well

Quoting Kelly +2 ERF/EH!:" I definitely wouldn't give in to what she wants at night. No toys, tv, playing, food...just water, then ... [snip!] ... whineyness also. Send her to her room and let her cry in there if the crying is just for attention and not because she's sick."

oh i dont and at night she doesnt get out of bed, shes lays in it crying like shes had a bad dream, at first i was comforting her but now that doesnt help either and ive tried the sending her to her room until shes calm, she just works herself up until she vomits, this is not my daughter at all, its like some one flicked a switch, my gut is telling me something isn't right but i just dont know what

any major changes? kids sometimes have a hard time coping with change.

Quoting Lisa Holdridge:" Perhaps you have been pandering to her a bit too much. I know how hard it is to not try to bribe them ... [snip!] ... You don't say how long it's been going on. She may just be really tired because of all the excitememnt and the broken sleep."

see i thought this aswell the first day/night she started this so i stopped, i will check with her whats the matter but i dont get a straight answer, i will be taking her if it carries on as this is just so odd and out of the blue, ive asked her if she hurts anywhere and she has said no but ive given her calpol anyway but that doesnt help, it started on the 30th december and maybe it has some thing to do with her sleep but im not sure what, all she want to do is sleep, she wont play with any of her toys, she just sits on the sofa looking half a sleep

Quoting T + H = My World:" oh i dont and at night she doesnt get out of bed, shes lays in it crying like shes had a bad dream, ... [snip!] ... my daughter at all, its like some one flicked a switch, my gut is telling me something isn't right but i just dont know what "

I'm logging off, but it sounds like something big has changed for her.
From an outsider, it sounds like she is needy right now and I'd try to meet the needs. If this persists and you cant identify what has changed in her life, take her to the doc and see if he/she can figure out what the problem is. I wouldnt ignore it or be "tough" about it as it is so different from how she normally is.

Quoting T + H = My World:" see i thought this aswell the first day/night she started this so i stopped, i will check with her whats ... [snip!] ... not sure what, all she want to do is sleep, she wont play with any of her toys, she just sits on the sofa looking half a sleep "

She sounds poorly. There's some really weird viruses going around lately that make you feel like crap but you don't have any visible signs no snotty nose or coughing or anything we've just had one in or house that lasted for a good 3 weeks maybe more. Some people just don't cope very well being poorly.

Quoting TheNuge:" What esle has changed at home for her? Is her brother and/or dad not around now?"

its started 30/12/12 but nothing has changed around that time, me and her dad separated back in october but he still sees them everyday and has them over night 3 times a week, she is used to him not being there all the time as he does 12 hour night and day shifts and her brother hasn't gone any where, i just put him in his cot again totally normal but she "wants him back"

Quoting I'm me:" any major changes? kids sometimes have a hard time coping with change."

nothing recently

Quoting TheNuge:" I'm logging off, but it sounds like something big has changed for her. From an outsider, it sounds ... [snip!] ... can figure out what the problem is. I wouldnt ignore it or be "tough" about it as it is so different from how she normally is."

it could be, i just dont know, im not ignoring the situation and im trying my best to figure it out with suggesting to her that crying will get her her own way, but yes this is totally out of character for her and its quite worrying

Quoting Lisa Holdridge:" She sounds poorly. There's some really weird viruses going around lately that make you feel like crap ... [snip!] ... we've just had one in or house that lasted for a good 3 weeks maybe more. Some people just don't cope very well being poorly."

it sounds bad but i really hope it is "just a virus", she just woke up again now crying "my eyes, my eyes again", i asked her what up with them and she cries more, i wiped them but nothing

Aaaw, poor lil thing:-(. I hope she feels better soon.