How do you know when your ready to TTC?

So this may be long but here is my rant!

My husband is stubborn! We have been together for almost 6 years and married for almost 2. We own a house have 2 dogs, 3 vehicles I only have 6 months left of college and he is done with college and is in a great place doing what he loves. (God has blessed us a lot!) I just need to finish school and get into my careeer. I want a baby so bad! He on the other hand wants me to finish school, it's only 6 more months and some times I am ok with it and other times I get so frustrated because he has his hobby that he loves and does and I typically do not like any type of hobbies, I'm not creative, I do not like to sew, I don't like cooking except when I am hungry, the only thing I like to do is read good novels but I very rarely purchase any books.
My husband wants me to finish college before we go TTC but honestly I am so tired of waiting. I do not understand how after all this time he is still not ready. I used to babysit then I worked at a daycare so kids are apart of my being! No one on his family is wanting us to have babies yet but in my family we are all prepared!
At some moments I am scared to death to get pregnant, I think what if he ends up hating me for "forcing" him into this or what if something goes wrong, or what if I cause us to go into heaps of debt?! Because he makes having kids sound like the worst thing ever it freaks me out. When in the end you are never financially ready to have a baby and I've heard when your pregnant that having and growing close to that baby makes you in a sense "emotionally prepared". Even if you have to give up some of the things you love.

My husband loves racing and we enjoy going out and doing whatever we want at any time. But honestly some people make having kids sound like the worst thing in the world because you sacrifice for them. But for me I just want to be a mother and I am so tired of waiting. What my question is, is how did you know when you were ready and how does your SO react to the whole kid thing? My husband has never really been around kids so I think that has a lot to do with it, he just wants to be a "kid" himself. I love my husband and I am not complaining about him just trying to see how others knew when it was the right time for them. Thanks Ladies!!

When we both mutually agree and we are both ready which we have talked about and this year is it for us.

I just don't think my husband will ever be "ready"

I think that you should both be in a mutual agreement as to when to TTC. He might end up resenting you and/or the baby if you get pregnant without him being ready to have a child. It should be something you are both excited about. I know it sucks to wait, but it's better to wait then to not be ready.
I also don't mean to be so brutally honest, but if you don't have any hobbies, you might want to pick some up...especially cooking. Try taking a couple cooking classes. I couldn't stand cooking, but started to teach myself and I actually really love it now!

Quoting Butterfly Guns:" I think that you should both be in a mutual agreement as to when to TTC. He might end up resenting you ... [snip!] ... Try taking a couple cooking classes. I couldn't stand cooking, but started to teach myself and I actually really love it now!"

The only time I like to cook is when I am making dinner and thats just so we don not have to eat fast food lol. The only thing I really like to do is read, I love losing myself in a book.  

That's the only reason I haven't forced it, I don't want it to make him resentful towards me.   I am very bad with patience but I just feel he has had enough time to be a "kid" and it's starting to feel like he will never be ready.
At first we made a deal that on our 2 year anniversary we would be TTC now he is trying to push it another month  

Quoting Mrs. Bowen:" The only time I like to cook is when I am making dinner and thats just so we don not have to eat fast ... [snip!] ... be ready. At first we made a deal that on our 2 year anniversary we would be TTC now he is trying to push it another month  "

The only thing is that it could completely ruin your relationship. He may never be ready. It's just something you have to sacrifice.

Quoting Butterfly Guns:" The only thing is that it could completely ruin your relationship. He may never be ready. It's just something you have to sacrifice."

 

I was in a similar situation a few years ago when my hubby was in school. I really wanted to have a family but he just wasn't ready. About a year after he finished school we started taking about having a baby again but he still wasn't ready until last Christmas when we were visiting his family and there were some young kids around, I think he finally just had a moment and the light turned on and he realized that he wanted to have a baby. So we started TTC. We were in no way financially ready( we were renting a house, he hated his job and I work retail) but we decided that none of that mattered and we would somehow make it work. We started TTC in January and found out we were pregnant this past Mother's day!. We have been more than blessed by our family giving us gifts for the baby. Now we just have to wait the arrival of our little boy any time now.
I would say if your at all a spiritual person, spend some time in prayer about it. If not, that's cool, but I would certainly spend some time with your husband discussing how you are feeling and find out what he's hesitant about. Maybe set a timeline to discuss the issue again and ask him to spend some time thinking seriously about it.
You will be glad to have it happen when you both want it to, not have him resent you or the baby if you make it happen without his consent.
And the moment you finally find out you are pregnant, you'll be crazy excited and scared all at the same time but it is the most wonderful experience in the world when the test comes back positive.
Be patient, it will happen when the time is right.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Janice Rider-Lehtovaara:</b>" I was in a similar situation a few years ago when my hubby was in school. I really wanted to have a family ... [snip!] ... most wonderful experience in the world when the test comes back positive. Be patient, it will happen when the time is right. "</blockquote>




Thank you. It's like you knew exactly what to say   I will talk to him about it I hope I can get some good answers and find out why he is so hesitant. It would be nice to know where to start to understand him and to work on whatever is making him hesitant. I am a spiritual person and def pray about it. I know in the end whatever happens will be the best.