Heartbroken

I went yesterday to have my surgery to dilate my cervix. They took me back and preped me. I went to sleep and next thing I know I was starting to wake up and they where done. They asked how I was feeling and if I was ok. I had pain so they gave me pain medication and I still kept falling back asleep. Finally when I was awake enough I got dressed went to the bathroom and went to check out. All the nurse said was Dr. Jain talked to my husband and my husband knows everything if I have any questions to than call Dr Jain. I said ok paid my copay and went to my husband and we left. I was still groggy but I knew something was wrong with my husband. We get to the car and ask him whats wrong. He asked me how it went and what did they tell me. I told him what happened and they said he knew everything. We already pulled out onto the road. He pulls over in a shopping center and starts to tell me.

Firstly, the surgery was unsucessful. He doesnt want to screw my cervix up more and tare more scar tissue up. He needs me back the minute I start bleeding on my next cycle. Second my cervix is made up of mostly scar tissue. Take away lots of scar tissue no cervix. He feels bad he put me under and couldnt get anything done. Thats not all...........

My bloodwork came back and its not good. He than started to explain to my husband whats wrong and why he havnt been able to get pregnant yet. I am 24 years old fairly healthy woman YET I have a 40 year reproductive system. My ovaries and egg count is low like I was 40 years old. He said my sitituation is very unique and if he didnt know me or my age he would like I was 40. Once they open my cervix if I get pregnant they will have to sew it shut and Ill have a csection. I already knew that. The problem was even getting to that point. If I can releae an egg and have it fertilized the problem than is being able to hold it. Im at a high risk for miscarriage. I will be put on bedrest and be considered a high risk pregnancy from the moment I conceive.

Im so confused and upset. I hate that the doctor left it to my husband to tell me everything. I love my husband to death but he doesnt know any of this medical stuff or about a female reproductive system and by the time he tells me some things are missing and turned around a bit.

I cant give up hope I wont give up hope. But Im scared and all I did was cry yesterday. I cried over everything and just kept breaking down. I started to look up Low ovarian count and things I can do naturally to help my condition. I found some herbs and vitamins, I need to get more pregnitude again. I also found some nutrition changes and what to eat and not to eat and I will give that a try.

Today I go back to work and I will bury my face and pain into my work so at least for 9 hours maybe I can put this in the back of mind. But I work with 70% baby stuff ughh:/

Has anyone else or know anyone else with this and still conceived a miracle baby? Any advise would be great.

Oh I also feel bad for my husband because all day yesterday he was staying strong for me and kept asking how I was but I need to worry about how he is too and thats hard when all I do is cry. We only actually spoke about it when it first happend and late last night and they both turned into a hysterical crying fit. Well off to staples and than work. Thank you in advance for any encouragement and advise.

I am really sorry to read your post and wish I had some insight to offer. But I do believe if your meant to have another baby your body will find a way to make that baby and keep that baby safe. I will say prayers for you and hope that you get your miracle baby one day.

My sister's husband was told he couldn't conceive children due to low sperm and now they have 3 kids. I know it is the opposite in your case but it took them many years to conceive their first one. My sister miscarried her second, but had no problems with the other two.

Quoting Krystal G.:" I went yesterday to have my surgery to dilate my cervix. They took me back and preped me. I went to sleep ... [snip!] ... turned into a hysterical crying fit. Well off to staples and than work. Thank you in advance for any encouragement and advise."

I dont know if you are in anyway religious but if so there are alot of stories of women in your shoes who concieved children just by having faith etc. I know there are other stories non faith based but I cant find them at the second I will do some research for you and try...I cant say I have been in your exact shoes but I can say that at the age of 13 they told me I would never carry a pregnancy and any time I did actually become pregnant I miscarried then I had my son it was the worst pregnancy ever and I was told a million times it would kill me he would die I needed to abort him etc. I now have an amazing son with no issues etc. and on top of it became pregnant without any fertility help or tracking afterwards yes my pregnancy is rough and it will have to be my last but even in the face of all the adversity I can promise you science is not always right but instincts are and if you dont have faith in anything else have faith in yourself that you will be a mom

<blockquote><b>Quoting pitbullprincess:</b>" I dont know if you are in anyway religious but if so there are alot of stories of women in your shoes ... [snip!] ... not always right but instincts are and if you dont have faith in anything else have faith in yourself that you will be a mom "</blockquote>


I come from a roman catholic background. I havnt really followed or been to to church in a long time but after yesterday I have an urge to go. To have faith to beg Him for my miracle. Thank you for the advice and help

as the first poster said your body will find a way she is very right and knowing it wont insult you now go where you feel you need to even if its just to sit and pray sometimes all we need is just someone to listen as we feel alone in our problems surrounded by people

Thank you both for the insight. I wish you all the best. I will keep posting on our journey. I am trying for my first. My husband has a child from a previous relationship that we raise together. I just wish I could experience this and give her a sibling at home instead of seeing her birth mom go on to have kids when she is a poor mother to the first one. Its so hard

Thank you both for the insight. I wish you all the best. I will keep posting on our journey. I am trying for my first. My husband has a child from a previous relationship that we raise together. I just wish I could experience this and give her a sibling at home instead of seeing her birth mom go on to have kids when she is a poor mother to the first one. Its so hard

I miscarried 7 years ago at 18 weeks with twins. I wasn't able to get pregnant for 7 years despite multiple IVF attempts. We adopted a wonderful little boy at birth 2 years ago. Then last month I found out I got pregnant on my own. Miracles do happen.

It sounds like your doctor is recommending a transabdominal cerclage for you and far less women have to go on bedrest with those than with a regular transvaginal cerclage. I'm in the process of trying to get one for myself.

ETA I was also diagnosed with a poor ovarian reserve. My AMH is so low it almost doesn't register. I have had to use donor eggs to conceive but I actually did conceive once on my own last year. It's certainly not impossible.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amelia Margaret:</b>" It sounds like your doctor is recommending a transabdominal cerclage for you and far less women have ... [snip!] ... I have had to use donor eggs to conceive but I actually did conceive once on my own last year. It's certainly not impossible."</blockquote>




Thanks for the insight. I hope for a miracle. Good luck to you all