re: What would you do? (bad situation)

Quoting ma ♥:" Like I said.. he was probably worried when he saw you told another dude to call you... You'd be worried ... [snip!] ... see the messages between you two. If there's nothing to hide just show him & you two can move on from it all. Good luck!!"

Yeah but his reaction was ungodly, smurf i trust him enough if a girl told him to call him i wouldnt be worried. Apparently this doesnt apply to me.

Sounds like too much drama for me. Doesn''t sound like a healthy relationship at all. And why is his dad involved?  

Plus, after being called a whore and not trusting me.. I would be done.

Quoting Nicola =):" Sounds like too much drama for me. Doesn''t sound like a healthy relationship at all. And why is his dad involved?   Plus, after being called a whore and not trusting me.. I would be done."

That is how im feeling. i dont care so much about the whore thing because i have had my past and in a way he is right, but not trusting me when i have done nothing to lose trust until this tiny situation he is completely over reacting in.... ugh

Quoting Carissa's Mama  :" That is how im feeling. i dont care so much about the whore thing because i have had my past and in ... [snip!] ... but not trusting me when i have done nothing to lose trust until this tiny situation he is completely over reacting in.... ugh"

Even if you love someone you don't need to be in a unhealthy relationship. Its not good for either of you.
Maybe you just need some time apart...

Quoting Nicola =):" Even if you love someone you don't need to be in a unhealthy relationship. Its not good for either of you. Maybe you just need some time apart..."

i agree! 
and its not just you and him its not good for its also that baby you have

His Dad did "research?" Bullsmurf. Either his dad hacked your phone or he's a complete smurfing smurf liar.... perhaps both.

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" i agree!  and its not just you and him its not good for its also that baby you have"

It's not his. She has split custody with her ex and wants to sign over her rights temporarily to her ex's grandmother. Which is why I said she should kick this guy to the curb and concentrate on making herself better for her daughter.

Quoting .Sam.:" It's not his. She has split custody with her ex and wants to sign over her rights temporarily to her ... [snip!] ... Which is why I said she should kick this guy to the curb and concentrate on making herself better for her daughter."

i understand that, but if the relationship isn't good for her then her staying in the relationship isn't going to been good for her daughter is what i was saying.

Quoting .Sam.:" It's not his. She has split custody with her ex and wants to sign over her rights temporarily to her ... [snip!] ... Which is why I said she should kick this guy to the curb and concentrate on making herself better for her daughter."

hes the only help and support i have, if i lose him im homeless and completely smurfed. i dont have anyone else, seriously.

Quoting Carissa's Mama  :" hes the only help and support i have, if i lose him im homeless and completely smurfed. i dont have anyone else, seriously."

Have you looked into public housing or something along those things?

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" Have you looked into public housing or something along those things? "

income based housing, yes. nothing is available for months.

Quoting Carissa's Mama  :" Yeah but his reaction was ungodly, smurf i trust him enough if a girl told him to call him i wouldnt be worried. Apparently this doesnt apply to me."

Then what do you want me to say? Don't get back with him because he called you a whore & over reacted. I mean.. do whatever you want.

Quoting Carissa's Mama  :" income based housing, yes. nothing is available for months."

I would if you have to go to womans shelter and see how they can help you, but if you do stay with him i would at least work on getting another place to live so when you guys do fight or something you both can just go other places and have alone time from each other.

Wait... So cell phone companies can see text convos?

it doesn't seem like a healthy relationship at all, and you need to put your daughter first. Why be with someone that has no respect or trust in you? I have also had my past but my husband has NEVER called me a name when he gets angry because he knows that's not how you treat the person you love. I also don't buy the "my dad did research on you" crap, I can see a dad doing it for his daughter, but less likely for a son. If he is all you have then you need to work on getting your own place and get your daughter out of that situation before it gets worse. Sorry if I'm coming off rude, but would you really accept a relationship that your daughter is in that her boyfriend is calling her a whore and disrespects her? You do have options, you are staying with him by choice. Other women have left a relationship with absolutely nothing and still make it as a single mom and end up doing a lot better.