I wouldn't speak to him every again. My grandmother's husband touched me as a child. I remember every disgusting detail. No one in my family talks to him except for my father but he can rot in hell also.

I would do the same thing and as far as your mother saying it doesn't involve you.. What the heck? Y'all are family so it does involve you. Sorry your mom doesn't get it.

If someone rapes someone else, they're a rapist. It doesn't matter if it's one person they've raped or 50! I definitely wouldn't want to talk to him. No offense, but your mother sounds just as bad for even accepting it. Does she not consider your sister's well being important? She sounds just as awful as your father, no offense  

You are not wrong at all. Personally, I think your mother is insane.

Your mom sounds sick too. I probably wouldn't associate with her either.

Not to be rude but your mother is smurfed in the head. Your father should be in prison. Anyone who disagrees is sick. I am sorry your sister went through that. I wouldn't be speaking to him or letting him anywhere near me or my children. I would also not be speaking to mom until she realizes how wrong she is.

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" EXACTLY! Even if he raped some stranger on the street, I would never speak to him oh and I guess ... [snip!] ... himself to kids as well. And before anyone asks, he was never charged. SOL ran out by the time my sister reported it"

Gross. I just don't understand some people. Your poor sister.  

You are not being petty whatsoever. Frankly, I'd be pissed off at my mother if she tried to make me feel bad for not wanting to associate with someone like that..

I don't believe you are in the wrong at all. He may have never touched you personally but he did abuse your sister. I sure as hell wouldn't have any thing to do with him. My paternal grandfather abused my sister and I from the age of 1-6 he would mess with her and make me watch and then mess with me and make her watch. I wish he would burn in hell. I went to an anniversary dinner for my aunt and uncle and he was there (the first time I saw him in years) and it was like looking the devil in the face.

I think all child abusers and pedophiles should be taken in front of a firing squad.

I am sorry that happened to your sister. I do not believe you are being petty.

My mom was molested (and as a teenager raped) by her father while her mother was in the room or in the house knowing it happened. She has 12 siblings that all still have contact with both of them. My cousins (I have 42 1st cousins) don't understand why my sisters and I have had zero contact with them. They all let their kids around him...unsupervised even. 0_o He has alzheimers that has set in quick and strong (apparantly it was a matter of 2 weeks from him seeming fine to not knowing his wife or kids that live with him) so they say he doesn't remember and it isn't fair to hold it against him now.

I think you are completely right to not have him in your life.

Definitely not petty. Is something wrong with your mother?

Your mom is in the wrong on so many levels.

If I were you I wouldn't add him, I would ignore & block him too. I would be worried he'd creep on DD's pics or something if I added him or something like that if I were you. I mean, I know from what you said you were told it was only your older sister he did stuff to, but I wouldn't risk it. I dunno how people like his mind work or anything, but it's just something that would seriously worry me as being a possibility and would freak me out to the point I wouldn't even be able to post profile pics with my daughter in them if I were in your position. Even after blocking him I'd be worried he'd create another fake account or something to see what he could about your life. Call me crazy, I don't care, but that isn't something I'd risk or mess around with.

You are not wrong at all momma!