If your child's father is not involved

Do you ever get sad?

This is nothing new. My son is 4 so I've been doing it alone for a long time. Tonight I am extremely stressed. Lots of child support drama I don't feel like dealing with. Unwanted calls and texts from him etc.

I feel like a smurfing failure. I made a poor choice with a piece of smurf person and now my son is going to go through life without a father.

I know I love him more than anything but I'm sad and scared thinking about how he will feel as he gets older... I don't want him to hurt. I don't want him to be lonely. I don't want him to be longing for a father.

This was a pointless post. I'm just really depressed.

If you hadn't made that poor mistake you wouldn't have your son  
That's how I look at it!

hell no he can rot in hell for all i care his sorry ass trys to tell me my son is not his and that its my DH yet i didnt know DH when i got preggo with my son.... He wont let DOR find him so we can do dna and even if we do ill never see a smurfing penny from his lame ass.

Mine was a useless cheating alcoholic, so I never really got upset that he wasen't involved. I did regret it was him though ;) My daughter is 12 now and she doesn't even ask about him, I told her the story, and she has no interest in a man who had no interest in her. She is pretty mature for her age though, always has been. Just know that he will get all the love he needs from you!

i always feel bad when he promises my son something and doesnt get it. or when we are waiting for him to pick him up and he doesnt show up. my son is old enough where he says things about his dad being a liar or doing things and seeing his sister more often. i never put anything in my sons head, he is 7 and draws his own conclusions about him. I feel really bad when my son makes those comments about him. but you cant force a deadbeat to take care of their child!

I remeber when we baptized Dean, I felt like such a loser, I stood up there by myself and every 1 else had the 2 parents, baby, 2 god parents I was by myself, while Dean dad was in jail...
but even before that he left when I was 7 months preg, I was so embarrased I gave birth and watch my son go thru surgeries and be hospialized for 6 weeks in nicu after birth, and his father saw him once and yelled at me in front of nurses,
"see I tolld u, u should have got rid of it, u can't even afford clean pjs for him," I only had 1 premie pj at the hosp because he didn't wear clothes becaue of his inscision,

He made me feel like a failure... I grew up without my dad because he passed I didn't want my child to be *that kid* and I still chose to have a baby with some1 who only loved me when I was bent over...

Only thing we can have control over is *our relationship* with our children, they don't *need* a mother and father to survive, they just need some1 to love and care for them, if we have to be mom and dad to our children, there's no1 who's going to love ur baby as much as u...

Been going throught it for 10 yrs with my DD.

Sad thing is, she has 1 half brother and 2 half sister's that he is involved with and.she sees the girls.at school.

And they talk about her dad doing fun stuff with them all the time.and it makes her depressed.

She has been in therapy for it for a few yrs now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting crazy coupon lady:</b>" Been going throught it for 10 yrs with my DD. Sad thing is, she has 1 half brother and 2 half sister's ... [snip!] ... her dad doing fun stuff with them all the time.and it makes her depressed. She has been in therapy for it for a few yrs now."</blockquote>



That is so sad   I really don't want to deal with this later in life... I'm dreading it.